Last edited by VicPark; 14-11-2013 at 06:03.
I believe your above comment shows ignorance and an unwillingness to understand, to empathise. It could so easily happen to you, to someone you know.. I pray that day doesn't come, because I would hate for you to read someone saying that they were just so distracted they forgot their own child.
And well yeah maybe it could happen to me.. But I hold myself to high standards and follow common sense practices in order to minimise the risk. I don't do stupid things that up the chance of things going wrong... Such as phone chat after phone chat when I am driving with my kid, like the dad in the story. If I am like a zombie I don't drive. There is no excuse for driving when you are so tired that you have the same senses as an intoxicated person. Don't get that milk and if the kids have to miss school for the day so be it. So yeah I do judge and call it negligence when other parents don't hold themselves to high enough standards and do silly things that put their kids at risk. Do I still feel sorry for them? Yes. Do I judge what I consider to be a genuine accident? No.
Prior to reading the article, my attitude was 'how could you forget your kids!'
After reading the article, I just don't know. I believe that these people are dealt a life sentence of guilt, that is far greater than any criminal sentence.
I really don't know how I feel about it. I personally can't imagine it happening to me, but neither did all of these people either.
It's a shocking accident that's for sure. But I don't know where I stand on whether it's criminal.
Married to my soul mate, Mummy to one beautiful little girl, wishing for a little boy to complete our family.
So if you have had a tough night where kids (assuming you have more than 1? If not then maybe it is a little harder for you to understand) have kept you awake. Do you then just sit on the couch for the rest if the day for fear if doing something unsafe? Can't go to lay group, or work, or to get milk. That would be unsafe.
My first were twins. Who didn't sleep. A good night was 4 hours. I had to operate on that. There isn't the luxury to say "sorry love, I know you work 12 hour days, but I didn't go to the shops today because I was holding myself up to high standards and practices. Don't want to do anything foolish, you know?"
I completely believe that in that circumstance, you can't empathise at all. And it's not because you believe something different to me; that's a cop out. It's because you refuse to see that accidents, tragic horrible accidents like this can be so easy, can happen.
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