Last edited by cheeeeesecake; 03-03-2014 at 20:39.
Considering this woman has done this before, and that she didn't rock up until a full 5 minutes after she was called over the PA, I would be assuming that she did it on purpose and that she's an irresponsible freaking idiot.
Leaving a child alone in a car is socially acceptable.. At least for the majority on BH. It's not hard to imagine how a mum in wider society then thinks its ok to leave her kid in the car while she 'ducks off' for a quick errand. It's a slippery slope and I draw the line at leaving a small child alone in a car, full stop.
Last edited by VicPark; 12-11-2013 at 06:10.
Nomsie, I read that article too. It certainly makes it harder for me to pass judgement on situations like these. If you have the time, have a read, it is long but really well written.
My main concern is for the child. I hope that this little boy is doing OK now. If this is a repeat situation, I hope that this family is given the help that they need.
I locked both my kids in the car once on a sweltering hot day while putting shopping away in the boot. I live in qld so normally I would turn the car on so the aircon was on while I strapped both babies in their seats. On this particular day I'd just listened to a news report about a mother who left her car running while putting the children in and a guy came and hijacked the car along with her kids, so on this day I kept the keys with me and tucked them into the top of my pants as I had no pockets and needed to use both my hands. I kept both back doors open along with the boot door up so there was some airflow. After my 3 month old and 16 month old were safety strapped in, I closed both back doors then went round the back to close the boot of my 4wd. As I reached up to grab the door the keys fell out of the top of my pants and into the door jam and when the boot slammed shut it must of pressed the button on my keys locked both of my babies inside.
Of course I have heard all the stories of how quickly babies die in hot cars and it was a boiling hot day. I went into full blown panic mode and started screaming, I had locked my phone in the car so I ran into the middle of a busy rd and flagged down a passing car to call for help while another passerby tried to find something I could smash the window with. In a last ditch attempt I spoke to my eldest through the window, who amazingly managed to reach over and unlock the car door (he was only 16 months).
I also reserve judgment until I find out the whole story. Without all the information we are all just jumping to conclusions, but it does serve as a reminder to us all now that summer is here about car safety.. We should all have plan in place to minimise the risk. I now always carry my handbag under my arm (with my keys and phone inside) when strapping my kids in.
It's a horrible thing to hear about again and again. But sometimes it isn't an accident. Sometimes it's a convenience for the parent/caregiver. Which is even worse.
I could understand the accidental locking off the car. Even forgetting poor Tommy for a few minutes. But it's something I can't wrap my head around that you forget a child. Your child.
Gracie's Mum (12-11-2013)
I can wrap my head around it being an accident in some situations. I am militant when it comes to seatbelt safety. It was drilled into me as a child by my mother who flew through the window of the car when she was a kid, back when seatbelts were rare. When DS was a newborn, I was tired and running late, I popped him in his capsule, was distracted momentarily by my then 2yo DD, put her in the car and drove off. Due to my tiredness and the distraction, I forgot to buckle DS up.
It was only a quick trip up the road, and I was MORTIFIED when I realised that I had not properly buckled him in. It may seem to be less extreme than forgetting to drop your child at preschool and leaving them in the car, but if I'd had an accident I would have been a headline- "Child falls out window after mother fails to buckle seatbelt". BH members would have been wondering how on earth I forgot to buckle a seatbelt, I would be a thread!
The thing is, accidents happen, no matter how unlikely they may seem. I don't know if the original incident this threat relates to is an accident, it may be a deliberate an neglectful act. In which case, this women needs to be dealt with. But people do forget, no matter how hard it may be to understand.
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