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    It sounds very strange to me also that your MCHN recommended that.
    My daughter started having some separation anxiety around 6 or 7 months, and it got a lot worse around 10 months. It has settled down a bit now (she's 13 months), but there's still no way I could leave her in a room on her own without her getting upset unless she was in a REALLY good mood.
    It's frustrating when you want/need to get something done without them, but they don't know that, they just need comfort. Good luck!

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    Thank you, thank you everyone!!!
    I must admit I did think it was my fault she was clingy as I am always with her and really do love to cuddle up instead of hearing her cry. I just get sick of the 'spoiling' crap. I really feel much better that I'm not doing the 'wrong' thing and I won't ruin her reaching her milestones. I will enjoy being a Velcro mummy again with no guilt!!

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    Also how would u all handle when strangers or even friends they're still not entirely familiar with get in los face and want cuddles. It breaks my heart handing her over and she screams so I take her back off them lol but I hate the eye rolling and the feeling that I'm not giving them a chance

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    Ignore the eye rolling and opinions! They won't be the last. DH's family uses to be like this as they expected DD to go to them but she was not familiar with them. She's 18 months and still doesn't know them but at least says no now

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    Quote Originally Posted by MinnieMouse81 View Post
    Ignore the eye rolling and opinions! They won't be the last. DH's family uses to be like this as they expected DD to go to them but she was not familiar with them. She's 18 months and still doesn't know them but at least says no now
    This was us too. Fil just couldn't get it. After awhile of me just being blunt and mil telling him to back off and let ds come to him he eventually got it.

    And low and behold as soon as fil let ds come to him in his own time he was so much more comfortable with him and almost instantly goes to him now.

    As hard as it is I think the only way to handle this issue is to be upfront and blunt if needed about dd needs and not wanting to have cuddles with everyone she doesn't know.

    I regularly use the line, ds is a person too so we can't make him do what we want when we want. Obviously there are exceptions when it comes to their safety but it seems to work with adults and cuddling and even kids wanting them to play what they want to play etc.

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    When DD went trough a clingy phase I just kept her in the ergo or sling and that way people couldn't get in her face or have a cuddle and upset her.

    Ignore the eye rolling- they're probably jealous they're not getting the cute cuddles!

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    Quote Originally Posted by olismumma View Post
    Could I stop her from learning to crawl if I pick her up and wear her all the time?

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    The way I see it, they aren't going to learn anything in a distressed state anyway. Better off meeting the emotional needs to give her the confidence to have a go.

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