DD was playing on DH's phone this morning while he was in the shower. I glanced over at her to make sure she was still playing her game and she had gone into dh's messages.....
I found a weird msg from a female - Just first name.
It said DH - Was good to catch up. Thanks.
Female - You call that a catch up?!?! speak soon.
Sounds perfectly fine and innocent? right
Bit of history: DH has cheated on me twice many years back before we were married and had children. it all began with emails and text msgs that he would straight away delete. They were always numbers, never assigned to names/secret names. Needless to say i snooped because i was suspicious at his odd phone behaviour. I wanted evidence, when i called a number a woman answered and i hung up. She called back straight away and i made DH answer it. He freaked out and ended up telling me everything.
It happened again about 2yrs later with a different person via emails and private fb msgs - basically having cyber sex with this woman .....i was working silly hours and we never saw eachother. I became suspicious because he was deleting history on the pc. But i knew his passwords. We got through it again. Just. It broke me for a long time. I didnt trust him for a long time.
He has not deleted this msg and left her name as the contact. Im not that concerned. Im only feeling weird about it because of dh's cheating hsitory, even though it was ages ago when it happened. I hate snooping but i cant help it. I should ask him what its about, right?...how?
I hate that feeling in the pit of my stomach......"please, not again...".
It has made me think twice about spending more time with eachother. We really need to make the effort to be together and have "us time" and for our relationship. Sometimes we get so busy and we seem to drift a bit.