DS2 is 8mths old now (time has flown!) and I know I need to start thinking about the prospect of letting him go alone with exDH.
The very thought of having to allow DS2 over to his house, especially for overnight stays, gives me full anxiety. Particularly when he's just had a baby with his s.kank, so there's only a 6mth difference between his two youngest children. I'm not comfortable at all with him (or her as a FTM) taking care of 3 children under 2. They have both proven so far not to be reliable and exDH certainly hasn't been a dedicated parent yet, especially to DS2.
It's terribly difficult, as I feel as though DS2 is MY baby. We split when I was pregnant, so I've raised him single handedly, along with DS1 since he was 13mths (now 26mths). I know as the father he has rights, and I've actually been the one to encourage regular visits to my house, even though I wished I never had to see him again. I want my boys to know their father and have as good as relationship as possible.
So....just wanting experience as to when your baby started spending time at fob place? When did overnights start?
I'm really struggling with even the idea of my little baby being taken away from me for ages yet the thought of his s.kank playing happy families with both my boys, while I'm home on my own, truly makes me want to vomit. She's already been so insensitive, posting all over Facebook about how exDH is 'totally and utterly smitten' with his latest baby. Meanwhile, DS2 is virtually the forgotten child do far, gets hardly anything from him at all. Breaks my heart and makes me extra protective.
Sorry, that turned in to a vent