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    "I'm pregnant with my ex's son, we were never even defacto, now he wants the child to have his surname. I am refusing as I will have sole custody and be the primary caregiver. Can he legally stop me from doing this?"

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    By the sounds of it, the surname of the baby is the least of your worries!

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    No he cannot legally stop you. Unfortunately for some (non issues) fathers-to-be, they don't have many rights at all when it comes to their offspring.

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    I've worked a visitation plan out with him and a few other details. I would never take him away from his son but I believe having my surname will be logistically easier and save baby confusion when he grows a little older.... Geez What a mess. He is actually making it really hard for me to enjoy this pregnancy

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    No the child doesn't have to have his father's surname. I think that's the least of the worries.
    Are you putting the guy on the birth certificate??
    Make sure you get visitation arrangements done via court as I think this guy will make life very stressful once bub is born


    Single mummy to a wonderful DS (Born 11/12/2008)

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    I have no reason not to put him on the birth certificate. He is the father whether I like it or not. He has deep emotional abandonment issues and I agree, will be very stressful once baby is born too. I'm thinking of moving town to deliver where my Mum lives and just make court arrangements from there (400km away).
    He's made himself out to be a martar of a guy in his emails. This is our only form of communication now. Texts and phone calls were getting too heated. I'm afraid he'll put an order in place for if I stay in Perth to deliver I won't be able to move down south. He has alot more money than me but I have worked hard my whole life for everything I own.
    I have looked forward to the day I find out I'm pregnant and now it's a nightmare.
    Thanks for listening guys. Appreciate any advice x

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    I'm pretty sure he can't stop you from moving when you are pregnant - especially if you are moving to be near your mum for family support. I can't see a judge denying you that!

    A friend of mine got pregnant to her BF at the time and he turned into a crazy possessive psycho when he found out. She has wanted to be a mum forever, but she ended up terminating around 11 weeks because she did not want to be linked to this guy forever through a child. Since you've posted this in the 2nd trimester thread I'm guessing it's too late to consider that option, but I really really hope for you and your baby that this turns out well.

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    As far as name goes, he cant make you, but a court can if he chooses that route. It would grant a hyphenated name.
    As for moving, do it asap. As once baby is here it would be vert hard

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