I used to be empty, but now full! My mum is a very negative and anxious person, which rubbed off on me growing up. It wasn't until my early 20's that I decided I didn't want to be that way anymore.
I had to make a conscious effort all day, every day to stop the negative thoughts. I read up on neuro linguistic programming and this helped immensely. Basically our brains create neurological pathways, based on the 'most travelled routes' of our thoughts. Like if you were to walk the same way across a field every day, you would eventually create a pathway. Our brain does the same. This means that it can be very difficult not to take that same path over and over again. In order to remove that pathway, we need to interrupt the pattern we are creating, and let the old pathway become overgrown. Each time you catch yourself having a negative thought, make yourself stop (even just by putting a rubber band on your wrist and snapping it each time you catch yourself, to disrupt that train of thought). Then replace the negative thought with a positive one. For example:
Negative: why don't I ever have enough money?
Change to: more money would be great, but I'm grateful I have enough money to keep a roof over my head and food on the table.
This instantly changes your frame of mind. I know it can sound a bit corny, but it works!
Another technique I used was to write down 3 things every night before bed that I had been grateful for that day. This calmed me down and put me in a positive mood before bed. Meaning I woke up happier and more well rested the next day. It also made me appreciate what I have. And whenever I felt down about life, I'd read over those things, and it helped to lift my mood.
The last thing, if the above didn't work and I could stop worrying about something, was to think logically about what the real possibilities might be. Eg. If I was worried about losing my job - ok, so I might lose my job, I might not get another job for a while, so I wouldn't be able to pay rent, which means I'd have to move in with family, and maybe sell my car. So then what? Well, I'd eventually get another job, save up to get my own place again, and eventually have enough to get another car...so would I really be any worse off in the long run? No, it might just take me longer to achieve my goals, and that's no so bad really, i cam handle that. IYKWIM?
I hope you can find some techniques that can work for you. All the best x
Im a great actor. So only those really close to me would describe me as a pessimist, everyone else thinks I'm bubbly and happy. Like a lot of women that suffer depression and anxiety, I wear my saddness on the inside.
Purple Lily (09-11-2013)
3/4 full I'm that bloody optimistic it's ridunkous
Glass half empty. Things rarely seem to go my way so im a bit of a negative nelly about most things.
Full, almost all of the time.
Not being a smartar$e, but it's both. I can almost always see good and bad points to a situation. It's annoying because sometimes it seems like I'm a fence sitter.
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