I hope I haven't offended anyone by making them feel they aren't budgeting well. It sounds like most of you already are!!
I only contributed as I'm asked constantly (even by other single parent families) how to help and on the times I have ... often these people would realise how I do it after I explain or show them. They didn't realise just how much I could save by not buying individually packaged yoghurts, baked goods, packet lunch treats or things like chocolate etc. A block of chocolate doesn't make it's way into my shopping unless I'm making a mud cake .... Which only happens about once a year for a birthday if that. There's nothing wrong with buying those things at all ... But when trying to budget they really do add up.