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    Default 3.5yo pants wetting. Confused. Please help.

    My 3.5yo DD who has been toilet trained for a year, has recently started having frequent accidents.

    I can pretty much count on one hand the amount of accidents she's had since she toilet trained herself a year ago.

    In the past week she's been wetting herself 1-3 times a day. Not a little wet in her undies but completely urinating on the floor.

    She missed the toilet yesterday (knew she had to go, ran to the toilet but was too late), wet herself at preschool (distracted & playing) & just wet herself in the computer room (playing tea parties)

    She stood up & said 'oh no!' As she urinated so she's not mindlessly just weeing wherever she wants. I don't/haven't made a big deal about it, just say 'whoops, mummy will get a towel, wees don't go on the floor do they? They go in the toilet' but I'm really getting the s*!t$

    Why is she doing this???

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    Could she possibly have a UTI?

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    I don't think so, wouldn't she be complaining of the pain? Every UTI I've had = painful.

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    DD went through a stage of doing something similar. I took her to the GP who said that maybe she is sore (not a UTI , but sore from not wiping properly/urine sitting there) and holding on too long then just going. In DDs case she would deny needing to go/hold on and then just randomly go wherever. Maybe this is a possibility? GP said its really common in young girls

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    My DD never complained of it hurting either.

    We got through it by "making" her go regularly before meals etc. GP also suggested vinegar in the bath.

    ETA - stress can also be associated with TT regressions. Could this be a factor?

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    From your other threads, she has gone through quite of a big upheaval in her life. It's quite common for their toilet training to regress while they are going through the adjustment.

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    Quote Originally Posted by gizmoduckus View Post
    From your other threads, she has gone through quite of a big upheaval in her life. It's quite common for their toilet training to regress while they are going through the adjustment.
    I haven't seem the other threads I don't think, but if this is the case then I agree that it may be related to changes happening in her life.
    Can't hurt to get her checked out for medical reasons if you are concerned though.

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    I would say she is physically reacting to what is going on in your life. Maybe some counselling for her may help.

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    Thanks mummies I didn't know stress could do that but have been doing some research & agree. I can imagine xdh will have a field day with this 'look what your doing to your daughter'. She hasn't really said much about the seperation & everyone (she, me & xdh have been acting a lot LESS stressed around each other). I tell her over & over that mum AND dad love her very much & daddy lives at nanas now. She sees him 3-5 days a week too and much more 'quality time' now rather then 'go away DD I'm busy'. I would have expected her to be feeling more relieved then stressed. Do you think 3.5 is too young for counselling? Keeping in mind she has AS & possibly ADD & OCD.

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    I read that in situations of trauma/change, the regression of toilet training can be a way of regaining control ie I'll pee when and where I want, thank you! Toddlers don't have a lot they can have control over! Is there a way to 'use' her OCD to help her either really recognize and think about the clues she feels before it is too late to get to the toilet, or else to convince her that the toilet is where to go? I say this knowing very little about OCD, but I was thinking if there was a set process or something she could do every time then she might feel a little more in control?


 

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