Long stort short, i lost my job around 6 weeks ago (well not really lost, my boss passed away) and since then i havent really been looking for work. DH has gotten increasingly stressed about money (hes doing a traineeship and on low wages). Honestly im not worried about money, i figure so long as the mortgage is paid and we have food we are all good. So what if we get into a bit of debt, it only for another year until his wages go up and i can work during school/kindy hours.
I got a call yesterday about a job (and old employer just randomly asked if i want a few shifts). I said yes, figuring why not. I dont want to work (im a SAHM of DD, 5 and DS, 3). Anyway i asked DH if i should take the job, just one shift/week for the next month then 2/week from then on, he said yes.
So he got home yesterday and promptly told me 3 hours was not enough and i should get more hours.
The thing is we decided a long time ago that putting the kids in day care was not an option so if i was going to work i have to fit in with his shifts, eg, i cant work til 5.30pm during the week. Now i dont want to be working til all hours of the night (9.30pm is as late as i want to do but 10pm is ok) but DH thinks i should be working til at least 10pm. You stay at home with the kids all day and then go to work and work til 10pm and then get woken up up at 5.30am and see how happy you are!!!
Im just so hurt, it just felt like what im doing is not good enough. Ive never once complained about him earning low wages, i support him in what he does. But yes it is hard, we went from earning almost 100k/year to under 50k. But now its my responsibility to earn the money as well as be a full time mum.
Of course he thinks im being an emotional female and over reacting, i dont know, maybe i am??
Just so hurt.