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    Default HELP US, it's happening again! :( 4month old

    DS2 is almost 4 months old and we're having a terrible time with his sleeping at the moment. He needs to be fed or rocked and patted to sleep and only catnaps during the day, waking up tired. Overnight he was having long stretches of sleep but now wakes every 2hours or so. He generally sleeps in a bassinet with me in bed next to him but I've been doing some cosleeping to get some rest. Complicating things is the fact that he's had a cold for a few days.

    I know there's a sleep regression at this age and he *should* get past it but DS1 has been a terrible sleeper since that age and is still cosleeping and sometimes night waking at 3yoa as we never figured out how to help him sleep better. Hubby and I are pretty stressed and quite divided on how to tackle it as we had such a stressful time with DS1. DH wants to do a CIO-type thing (which I am against) but when trying 'no-cry' methods with DS1 we just seemed to get nowhere!

    I just don't know how to handle this. How do you even have the time to 'sleep train' a baby when you have another child to take care of?

    Any tips/support/kind words?

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    So sorry you are having a rough time...sleep deprivation is so hard.

    4 months is still young, have you tried the dream feed http://community.babycenter.com/post...ts_nightwaking
    This worked for both my kids, id do it around 10pm, just before i went to bed.

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    We got through it by being consistent with how we put her to bed (so she had well established sleep cues). And also by gently encouraging self settling so she can get herself back to sleep and doesn't wake each sleep cycle.

    She's a great sleeper except I have noticed during wonder weeks she cat naps, refuses naps and refuses to self settle. In those weeks I just cuddle her more and hold her to sleep. She gets right back to normal after the wonder week has finished. So I haven't noticed it creating any issues.

    Hopefully your DS will get back to his usual sleep patterns. Though I have found they change so much this young !!

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    have you tried an infant swing... sometimes it works wonders in getting bubby to sleep..

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    loislane2010 thanks I never really tried a dream feed with DS1 as I always was worried he'd wake and I'd have to spend ages re-settling him. DS2 is often waking around that time and getting a feed anyway. I might try to be more consistent with it to see if it helps.

    BlueLips we try to use some sleep cues like being wrapped but he actually starts screaming as soon as he knows he's being put to bed! Same as if we try to get him to self settle. It just results in him screaming. I've been trying to put him down 'drowsy but awake' but still more screaming. It's doing my head in. I find it so stressful

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    Yeah, id give it a go, it might take a few days to see any change but its worth a shot. Does he have a dummy?? I know some people are dead against dummy's (i was one of those people) but to get some sleep id give it a go. DD had a dummy for 3 years and it wasnt that hard to get rid of it.

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    I signed up with a sleep consultant who did a consult over the phone, then wrote up a specific plan and we spoke on the phone daily for two weeks. Her plan worked, but for lots of reasons we weren't consistent enough to keep it going - but definitely this was our fault, not the failing of the plan. I can definitely recommend her though, if you'd like to PM me (not sure about linking rules from this site).

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    i dont know how much help this will be but we put up with it untill my babies were a little older. At 4mths old, there could still be feeding, refulx issues, growth spurt, even teething. At that age, they need alot of comforting and re-assurance from you. I rocked and fed to sleep all the time.
    When they reached 6mths we taught them to self settle. We did CC with DD but DS would not take to it so we basically did CC but i was there with him the whole time.
    It was intense and took about 4 weeks before my babies had mastered slelf settling...then it took a while longer for them to learn to sleep longer.
    I found routine, a dummy, a comforter (for sleep times only used for sleep cues) and feeding by the clock helped us. My babies were terrible demand feeders and i had over supply issues.

    For now, i would just keep folowing her cues. Feed when she wants it, get her to bed however works before she gets too tired.
    Shes still gianing your trust, by the sounds of it. Possibly not ready to be left alone to fall asleep. Thats pretty normal. I would wait it out, do whatever gets you through the days an when she is a little oler, have a plan in place to tackle her self settling. U need to stick to your plan and be really consistant or you will confuse the baby. So make sure you have a strong plan an you are confient you know what you are doing.
    A baby sling/carrier helped me out for my insomniac bubs!
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    I can't help with the self settling as I like to rock/feed/cuddle my babies to sleep while they are young. DD grew out of it at 12 months and DS is only 5 months.

    On the change with night sleeping though I noticed DS was waking up a lot sounding snuffly (winter bub!) so started using a vapouriser in his room and he stopped waking so often. He's now consistently doing 9+ hours at night and I've been able to stop using it. So could be worth a try if he has a cold.

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    Thanks everyone, your input is much appreciated. I too feel that he is still young and needs lots of loving help to get to sleep, but I think DH is panicking at the thought of having another sleepless child (and me too I guess). I thought DS1 would grow out of it too but he still needs us to be with him at night. Part of my problem is convincing DH to give DS2 a bit more time...


 

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