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    If I remember something about someone I post with that in mind.

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    I generally try to respond to what someone has said/asked, but undoubtedly what I know of someone would alter my answer. As someone else has mentioned, if I know someone's going through a rough time then I would probably take that into consideration and try not to be too harsh etc.

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    I think you have yo respond based on what you know. This can be hard girls new members who might not understand the tone of responses but I agree with sassy, it'd be strange to pretend you knew nothing about them.

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    Most definitely. I don't forget a friends history when giving advice, so why would I on a forum??

    You get to know people on here and of course that is going to influence how/what you say to them.

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    Not unless something stands out in my memory, I don't stalk through anyone's previous posts ever. I would like to think that people wouldn't have the time or energy to do so but I know many do, I often have had snide remarks or posters saying something word for word from posts from along time ago so it's obvious stalking.

    Those that do make judgement from something someone may have said some time back in a thread perhaps need to think that perhaps that view has changed since then.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kimberleygal1 View Post
    Not unless something stands out in my memory, I don't stalk through anyone's previous posts ever. I would like to think that people wouldn't have the time or energy to do so but I know many do, I often have had snide remarks or posters saying something word for word from posts from along time ago so it's obvious stalking.

    Those that do make judgement from something someone may have said some time back in a thread perhaps need to think that perhaps that view has changed since then.
    I don't think that people go and search through previous posts. If that happens, I think it would happen VERY rarely.

    It's not too hard to remember small details about someone who posts regularly though. I remember things like:

    *That person has a large family
    *That person often posts about their partner being a jerk
    *That person is a teacher
    *That person is arrogant
    *That person has been TTC for a long time
    *That person is a bit of a hippy

    etc etc.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kimberleygal1 View Post
    Not unless something stands out in my memory, I don't stalk through anyone's previous posts ever. I would like to think that people wouldn't have the time or energy to do so but I know many do, I often have had snide remarks or posters saying something word for word from posts from along time ago so it's obvious stalking.
    I wouldn't call that stalking. I think people just remember posts and posters that stand out from the crowd. And let's be frank, you're not afraid to buck trends or oppose the majority

    OP, I have grown to know some members quite well. I've met a few, and count some among my closest friends. Others have been memorable in more negative ways. In any case it wouldn't be possible for me to reply without these relationships and histories in mind.

    That's not to say I would hold a grudge. If someone needed support I would give it, no matter our personal history.
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    I have a shockingly bad memory so although I recognise some usernames I dont remember what they posted yesterday. I *may* recall basic situations (eg single, recently divorced etc) but never specific situations (eg has had trouble with LO sleeping etc). I do remember themes of threads (eg MIL's and teachers seem to be a hot topic atm) but never who posted what in them. I read, move on and then forget

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    I remember things about members, kind of how sassy explained it.

    I normally just reply, but if someone is asking a specific question, say 'should I leave him' type and they've previously posted about how much if a douche 'he' is I'll respond with that in mind.

    I think I've missed the thread that this one spins off so ima go thread hunting now

    ETA: ah, got it. Not sure with that thread specifically. I can see where some posts were coming from but don't know if it really needed to be added in.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kimberleygal1 View Post
    Not unless something stands out in my memory, I don't stalk through anyone's previous posts ever. I would like to think that people wouldn't have the time or energy to do so but I know many do, I often have had snide remarks or posters saying something word for word from posts from along time ago so it's obvious stalking.

    Those that do make judgement from something someone may have said some time back in a thread perhaps need to think that perhaps that view has changed since then.
    I do it. For example someone posted recently an outcome to their current situation but didnt mention in the recent post what their current situation was. All other posters were congratulating them and so on and I had a vague memory of what they were reffering too so I looked back to confirm in their recent posts out of interest. It wasn't stalking or to judge it was a "ah thats right now I recall" moment.

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