I don't think I need help with chores regularly but being a part time student it'd be great to have some kind of help once in a while
I don't consider myself as going it alone. My son has many influences and people to guide him, from me, to his stepmum, to the sensei at karate, to his teacher, to his principal, his grandparents, the little old lady down the road who lets him go over and pat her dog. They all bring something positive to his life. They all shape him into the awesome little person that he is.
compared to a lot of parents I receive a LOT of what people consider 'help'. It's just how my family roll lol. We don't believe helping each other ends once people move out of home. If one of us moves we all pitch in. If there's something dead in the ceiling that's a dad job. Electrical issue my brother's job. Cooking issue my job. The last time DS and I were at my parents house and they went out and were insanely busy we sneakily cleaned the house from top to bottom. Not because they 'need' help but because it's considered a normal thing to do in our family.
My mum adores my DS and they have the most lovely grandparent-grandchild relationship so yes she often asks if he can come over, most of the time I go with them but yes sometimes I use that time to walk along the beach, see a movie, make out with my handsome man, etc.
I don't call what you describe as help it's just what family do.
I could survive doing everything myself but I have family who love to come play with ds or while we are talking they will put dishes in the dishwasher.. in my family that's normal and I love it.
As I have already stated I dont have a mum so find what other daughters and mums do/have is very foreign to what I know.
Ive never had the option just to call in someone to help me out. My dear dad helps when he can though, but ive just never had that village and now im getting older understanding the concept is getting more difficult
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No help here, DH and I made our family and we'll look after it.
My mum asks every single time she is here if she can do this or that, I don't want help, period. Her job as a grandparent is to play with her grand kids, simple.
Totally in love with our two beautiful little girls.
Feb 2011 and May 2013
I have almost no help at all. MIL watches DS when we go to counselling for an hour, once a week. I recently went 15 days caring for DS alone when I think I spoke to someone else maybe twice. And one was at the shop. I have no family in this country. I have a couple of friends that always say 'but why didn't you ask for help?', but when I do they are always too busy. So I stopped.
Do I need a village? No, but a little network would be great. I am going back to work 3 days a week next year and DS is starting cc. I a, moving back to the country where I do have a support network. Oh, how I live for that day. I don't feel pride that I do it on my own (and tbh, my house is kind of a pigsty), but at least I know that I can when it comes to it, and that counts for something I guess...
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