Maybe you just need to tell her straight out that you don't want her rearranging stuff or snooping.
Give her a chance, and if she snoops, don't use her again.
Considering it is an assumption, obviously based on some history, I think it would only be fair to give her a chance after telling her the boundaries/rules. If she breaks the rules, you know you can't trust her.
The only reason I wouldn't like it is because it'd mean I'd have to go on a mad cleaning spree... not leave it how I would if she wasn't coming over. lol.
I don't understand why it's such an issue for you OP, but it clearly is... so just do whatever works and doesn't leave you having an anxiety attack.
I love when MIL babysits at my place cause she does my most hates chores - ironing & sheet folding
So even when we are here she is nosing through my stuff. Leaving her alone in my home in her eyes will be an open invitation to go through my sh!t!
I honestly can't believe how so many of you would be cool with someone snooping through your house and things! That would drive me beyond crazy! Omg nothing is worth that. And if she's snooping, she isn't paying attention to the kids imo. Totally with you on that op.
Tbh I'd ask if your 20yo daughter can do it? Time with her darling siblings and you'll pay her in wine/chocolate/gratitude. I'd never mind my mum asking me to do that for her, if she has plans she can always say no Totally worth an ask, maybe can be her Christmas pressie to you
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hmmm, I actually do get what you're saying. My MIL made herself available to house sit for us when we all went away on a holiday together (husband and all the kids) I didn't actually ask her to do it at all, and in fact it just made me more anxious because I felt like I had to have things in order, and much tidier than usual because I was worried about what she would think. It did actually make me feel very uncomfortable, but what do you do....she felt like she was doing us a favour! I actually don't like people in my home that much at all, and I do understand what you are saying. If it makes you feel anxious or uncomfortable, it's not really much of a help to have mil there, is it?
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