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    Default Pregnant super anxious- alone

    I have decided to keep my baby despite all the reasons I shouldn't and the pressure from the baby's father. I am currently 11 weeks. But I am feeling really weird and anxious lately. I feel so heavy, sluggish and confused Sometimes it's like I'm going to have a panic attack but it doesn't eventuate. I want so much to be happy and feel in control of my life. But I don't right now. I am seeing a counsellor but I am posting because hearing other mothers experiences can be super helpful as well. I want to snap out of this feeling. I don't know exactly what is the main problem making me feel this way and what these feelings even mean. I am afraid of this spiraling into post natal depression later on. I have 5 children- all but one is school aged. My youngest will be 2 when this baby is born. I am still in shock about being pregnant and haven't fully accepted it yet maybe.. I want to bond with this baby. I want hope for our future. I don't know where to start :/

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    I'm sorry that you are having a hard time, unfortunately I don't have any advice for you hun but I wish you all the best =)

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    Hi kara, I totally relate to how you are feeling. I suffer from bi polar disorder. Currently pregnant with my fourth child to my new partner.
    Feeling lost, confused , miserable........... Like I have nothing to look forward to in life . Hate that I can't just feel human , that I'm not being the best mum I could be to my other kids..... It's really such an unfair illness.
    I know I really need to see a counsellor or psychologist but it all seems to hard....getting referral.... Finding some one decent etc...

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    Hi ladies. Just remember that the pregnancy hormones also lead us to feel particularly worried and anxious at times. You're also both looking at some fairly significant changes in your already busy and complicated lives.

    Sometimes the fear if what is to come is way worse than going through it. Yes, your new little bubs will make life busier and more complicated for a while but when you're actually doing it in however months time, you'll find that you'll cope because you have to - as you've probably always done!

    And bradybunch - we all feel that we're failing our kids at times. I try to balance this by making the effort to do something special every day in the holidays and try to rotate which child it's for. Eg. E likes backyard cricket, F wants to play Pictionary and D has been watching the Batman trilogy with us. It has the added bonus of taking my mind off my own issues!

    Good luck with everything, both of you.

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    Hi Kara

    I don't have a huge amount of advice but I did want to pop in and offer my experience. I have a 4mo old DD and am suffering ridiculous amount of anxiety. I don't sleep and constantly feel sick about things that are outside of my control. While I have no advice in how to fix the anxiety (working on that myself) I did want to assure you I have had no issues what so ever in bonding with my girl. So they don't necessarily go hand in hand.

    I'm going to be seeing my GP about getting some help, maybe you could do the same? If you need to chat please PM me. Wishing you all the best xx

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    Thank you so much for the lovely replies- if only I'd got them earlier. I was so scared and anxious then :/ I'm 21 weeks along now and feeling much better now I have had a few ultrasounds since then and found out the sex of the baby. Bought some clothes and stuff and actually feeling happy about it all now. I think feeling not great early on sparked my fear of having pnd again like with my first. I never really got over that. I mean I did but my relationship with that child suffered so it's been a source of guilt and emotional yuckiness ever since. I just never want to feel that way again, much less have it ongoing. I had a similar anxious feeling when I was pregnant with my first. I had this fear that maybe it was a sign that I was headed down the same path. Seems silly now because I had 4 children after my first and didnt have a problem. But pregnancy hormones, an a hole ex who doesn't love me and wants our baby dead is enough to make anyone anxious I guess. That and having another high risk pregnancy. I'm so glad I feel better about it all now. Nothing has changed with my circumstances either. I think I have adjusted to it all now and seeing my baby's little face in the scans reminded me of how lovely it can be

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