Another long term IVFer here. I agree whole heartedly with DJ Nette. As Starfish and myself and many others have proven, sometimes it takes many goes. I've done 9 stim cycles, plus having had 3 cycles cancelled, so 11 transfers altogether to get my precious DD. She was my last attempt with my own eggs, (our emotional state and marriage would not have lasted another failure) and at that point we weren't sure if we would ever use a donor. It's OK to take a break (as long as you're not too old and taking too long a break), recharge, patch up the wounds, then start again if you want to.