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    * Dummy - yes (even though I am not a fan)
    * Food wishes - yes... Unless they were overly unhealthy (eg feed my 5 month old a Big Mac)
    * cc : hmmmm. To some extent I would follow their wishes and not go to every whimper. But when I go in would be up to me, where my line in the sand is.

    Then again even if I was retired I wouldn't be looking after my grand kids on a long term regular basis (eg 3 days a week while the parents work). They can get off their **** and organise/pay a real babysitter. A half a day every now and then so they can do something, yes.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Benji View Post
    I don't think I'd be able to CC (as in new baby screaming - it's not recommended even by CC advocates anywhere but home because they're in a new environment/new person looking after them and leaving them to cry...well it isn't nice for them) but I would make that extremely clear to them beforehand. The dummy etc well generally when I babysit I do whatever the child's normal routine is (even if it's not exactly what I'd do) so as not to confuse/stress them. Junk food I'd actually laugh if parents were flat out AGAINST healthy food for their kids lol.
    I think the junk food came up because one of the kids of a work colleague always has chocolate custard after his lunch, and her MIL refused to serve it to him as she didn't believe it was healthy, even though mum & dad provided it in his lunchbox.

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    I would do most things that were requested but never cc. If my kids don't like it then they can pay for a babysitter.

    And I don't care if studies prove it to be best (which they won't). I don't avoid cc because a study says not to. I don't do it as it feels instinctively wrong to me as a parent and I trust my instincts.

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    Cc is up to parents to do I think. It's too much to ask someone else to follow through on something that is a) controversial and b) potentially upsetting to all involved.

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    I will follow my kids' instructions when the time comes to babysit for them. I'd hate to cause fights and tension! My mum has always done what I request when babysitting, but thankfully we have similar styles of parenting so there haven't been many issues.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mum2EandR View Post
    I think the junk food came up because one of the kids of a work colleague always has chocolate custard after his lunch, and her MIL refused to serve it to him as she didn't believe it was healthy, even though mum & dad provided it in his lunchbox.
    I'd give it to him. My parents and in-laws aren't told any rules with DS because he's older. When he was a baby I never had him babysat. I don't think either sets would have done anything that could have harmed him but I can understand why some people get annoyed to find that their routine with their very little baby was massively disrupted which could cause a heck of a lot of stress at home. Yes, it's all well and good to want to "treat" kids we're babysitting, but it's mum and dad who are the ones who have to deal with a baby with a sore belly or a baby who won't sleep because the night before he/she was left to cry alone.

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    It depends. One offs, or evening babysitting I would follow their wishes. If I was offering to be free child care, as my MIL has done, I would be far more 'my rules'. I think there are far too many parents today who get free child care of their own parents and basically boss them around and treat them like the staff. If you trust someone enough to watch your child regularly and for long hours, I think you have to trust them to do things their way. Or you can pay someone you can boss around.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FearlessLeader View Post
    It depends. One offs, or evening babysitting I would follow their wishes. If I was offering to be free child care, as my MIL has done, I would be far more 'my rules'. I think there are far too many parents today who get free child care of their own parents and basically boss them around and treat them like the staff. If you trust someone enough to watch your child regularly and for long hours, I think you have to trust them to do things their way. Or you can pay someone you can boss around.
    Agree.

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    I can see both sides.

    1.) if you want a babysitter, you have to accept that people will do it differently to you

    2.) as a parent, I want my wishes to be granted when it comes to babysitting

    When my mil was visiting here from overseas for the first time to meet dd1, dd1 was 4 months old and could already put herself to sleep without cc and sleep 12/13 hours a night. We went out one night for dinner and came home early for some reason (can't even remember now) to find mil rocking dd1 to sleep. I was so annoyed, then she wonders why I don't want to leave her with the kids.

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    Very very true FL! I hope my children are easy going!

    Ok CIO/CC is very controversial.....

    Let's say that in 20 years, the 'done thing' is to put your child in front of the tv at all times, and outdoor time is to be limited to under an hour a day, and preferable none for the under-twos.... Ok ridiculous lol! But let's say it happens. Could you do it? I'd probably do it for short term babysitting arrangements but gosh it'd be hard to change my own opinions and thoughts to accept the 'current recommendations'...


 

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