+ Reply to Thread
Page 5 of 6 FirstFirst ... 3456 LastLast
Results 41 to 50 of 55
  1. #41
    Join Date
    Jul 2011
    Posts
    3,525
    Thanks
    1,890
    Thanked
    2,539
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    I think he's clearly ignorant. He's really got no idea! Surely he wrote it for the sole purpose of being inflammatory, if not then he's a twit.

  2. The Following User Says Thank You to Ellewood For This Useful Post:

    beebs  (30-10-2013)

  3. #42
    Join Date
    Jul 2010
    Location
    The Kimberley WA
    Posts
    4,622
    Thanks
    916
    Thanked
    1,180
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by Fleetwood View Post
    I think he's clearly ignorant. He's really got no idea! Surely he wrote it for the sole purpose of being inflammatory, if not then he's a twit.
    Do have to wonder why he would write about it!

  4. #43
    Join Date
    Mar 2013
    Location
    Newcastle
    Posts
    653
    Thanks
    817
    Thanked
    217
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Haha oh wow.

    I can see his point re complications & the nurses/medical professionals view.

    But he loses a credibility (if he had any) by saying he 'knows what it's like.. Just do it naturally'

    Just stuff a pinecone up his bum?

  5. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to Mummy Potato For This Useful Post:

    beebs  (30-10-2013),GrabbyCrabby  (31-10-2013)

  6. #44
    Join Date
    Dec 2005
    Posts
    17,747
    Thanks
    5,085
    Thanked
    8,691
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 posts
    Awards:
    Past Moderator - Thank you
    100 Posts in a week
    What is that they say about opinions being like ar$eholes?

    Trev's entitled to his opinion but it carries no validity imo. Not because he's a man, because he's a kn0b!

    I mean seriously what was his wife up to while he was delivering his two babies naturally? Sitting back watching Ellen, drinking tequila?

  7. The Following 9 Users Say Thank You to misskittyfantastico For This Useful Post:

    Atropos  (30-10-2013),beebs  (30-10-2013),Benji  (30-10-2013),FearlessLeader  (30-10-2013),Gandalf  (30-10-2013),Mathermy  (30-10-2013),Mod-Nomsie  (30-10-2013),Theophania  (30-10-2013),Witwicky  (31-10-2013)

  8. #45
    Join Date
    Jul 2011
    Posts
    3,525
    Thanks
    1,890
    Thanked
    2,539
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by Kimberleygal1 View Post
    Well my dh was present for the entire 33 hours of my intense labour, although he didn't experience it himself as such he witnessed and watched what I went through, the interventions, the emotions etc so in my opinion he has a damn good idea what it is like so yes I do think a man can have a say. Having said that my second labour was short and sweet so had that been what my dh had witnessed first I would not think any comment he made would be valid.
    with all due respect, and of course you're entitled to your opinion, but your husband probably knows a lot about your labour experience, but that doesn't mean he knows about others experiences or how it really feels. my ex and my doula could probably tell you all the details of my birth (better than me possibly), but neither could tell you how I was feeling, or my experience of it. I kept a lot of that inside.

  9. The Following 5 Users Say Thank You to Ellewood For This Useful Post:

    Atropos  (30-10-2013),beebs  (30-10-2013),Gandalf  (30-10-2013),peanutmonkey  (30-10-2013),Witwicky  (31-10-2013)

  10. #46
    Join Date
    Apr 2006
    Posts
    8,705
    Thanks
    581
    Thanked
    647
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    I definately think males are entitled to have an opinion- this decision affects them too but the right to have an opinion does not come with the right to be a jerk.
    You also need to get appropriate facts right- the fact of the matter is a man, despite being there for 1 or 500 births, or the most empathetic male does not and biologically can not know what it is like to give birth. I don't even think a female knows what other females go through- labour is so different from one women to the next, to one baby to the next.

  11. #47
    Theophania's Avatar
    Theophania is offline 'see what had happened was..there were these three ninjas and a blue monkey and well it really wasn't my fault..'
    Join Date
    Nov 2009
    Location
    Brisbane
    Posts
    3,075
    Thanks
    819
    Thanked
    832
    Reviews
    1
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Firstly I do not understand what is 'unnatural' about birthing in water. And secondly I find it offensive that he thinks he knows what women go through because he delivered his own 2 babies... DUDE you did NOT deliver the babies, perhaps you caught them on the way out but their mother DELIVERED them! It would be like me saying to someone who loses the use of their legs after an accident that I know how it feels to becuasee I had an epidural once and couldn't get out of bed for a day... He can have an opinion but no it doesn't matter because he isn't a woman who may one day find herself birthing a baby outside of her comfort zone when made to get out of the water she may find comforting.

  12. The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to Theophania For This Useful Post:

    Atropos  (30-10-2013),beebs  (30-10-2013),Gandalf  (30-10-2013)

  13. #48
    Busy-Bee's Avatar
    Busy-Bee is offline Offending people since before Del :D
    Join Date
    Mar 2007
    Location
    Brisbane
    Posts
    11,183
    Thanks
    3,664
    Thanked
    4,704
    Reviews
    2
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 posts
    Awards:
    Past Moderator - Thank you
    Quote Originally Posted by Atropos View Post
    Really? You think it's fine for a man to tell women that he knows what childbirth is like because he watched it?
    Well, surely you must know what it's like to be kicked in the you-know-whatsits because you've seen it happen to someone.

    As a pp has said, I don't dismiss his opinion because he's a bloke, I dismiss it because he's got no frikkin idea what he's talking about. Nothing peeves me more when a WOMAN says "it's easy to give birth/breastfeed/etc because I did it and it happens like this ..." when it's one of those things that every case is different. When a BLOKE says something like that? Pffft, douche-bag.

    This is a clear-cut example of an instance where not all opinions are equal.

    Oh, and the reason water births are not allowed in hospitals is usually because a bunch of lawyers has made the recommendation.

    ETA: What was that show a while ago where the male doctor was hooked up to a machine that simulated contractions. He didn't make it to the 'birth', it became too painful.
    Last edited by Busy-Bee; 30-10-2013 at 14:36.

  14. The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to Busy-Bee For This Useful Post:

    Atropos  (30-10-2013),beebs  (30-10-2013),Gandalf  (30-10-2013)

  15. #49
    Join Date
    Jun 2010
    Posts
    8,806
    Thanks
    7,267
    Thanked
    9,720
    Reviews
    5
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by Fleetwood View Post
    with all due respect, and of course you're entitled to your opinion, but your husband probably knows a lot about your labour experience, but that doesn't mean he knows about others experiences or how it really feels. my ex and my doula could probably tell you all the details of my birth (better than me possibly), but neither could tell you how I was feeling, or my experience of it. I kept a lot of that inside.
    This

  16. #50
    Zombie_eyes's Avatar
    Zombie_eyes is offline Formerly Diamondeyes
    Winner 2012 - Biggest Computer Nerd
    Winner 2013/14 - Funniest Member
    Join Date
    Aug 2011
    Posts
    9,354
    Thanks
    2,835
    Thanked
    9,033
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Awards:
    100 Posts in a week
    Come in guys, clearly he has *some* idea since he just birthed a giant load of **** on the world.




    Mumma to two beautiful boys on the spectrum and one special little girl.

  17. The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to Zombie_eyes For This Useful Post:

    Anjalee  (30-10-2013),Atropos  (30-10-2013),Jakois  (30-10-2013)


 

Similar Threads

  1. *possible trigger*spin off* How do know if your fears are valid?
    By InWatermelonSugar in forum Issues with Family Members
    Replies: 6
    Last Post: 01-04-2013, 16:15
  2. **spinoff** At what point do you think it's valid to express your concern?
    By Kelly8329 in forum General Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
    Replies: 11
    Last Post: 12-03-2013, 20:55
  3. Replies: 91
    Last Post: 12-02-2013, 16:58

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
christmas gift guidesee all Red Stocking
Einsteinz Music
Make music at Einsteinz Music in age-appropriate class in Sydney's Inner West, Eastern Suburbs or North Shore. For ages 6 mths - 4 yrs. All music is live! Christmas Gift certificates available for full term or casual classes. Call 0431 338 143
sales & new stuffsee all
The Health Hub
Give a new mum a fitness boost for Christmas & New Year. Studio-based, small group training sessions - cardio, strength, core, Pilates & boxing. Choice of 16 hrs per week, flexible-arrival feature - bubs & kids welcome! Gift vouchers available.
featured supporter
Cots on Bubhub
Looking to buy a cot or bassinet? :: Cot safety checklist :: Local or online nursery shops
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!