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    Don't think he was asked, super granny- his was the first comment on the article, so presumably he sat there and wrote out either the first lot of words that popped into his head, or he is a troll trying to stir up the local woman... In which case just makes him a major douchey douche.

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    I don't care if I get flamed for this

    I am sorry NO ONE has the right to tell me or any other woman to suck it up.

    Just because you have given birth doesn't mean you can understand my experience giving birth.

    I had 6 very different labours. One was a absolute breeze pain wise even though there was complications. Another was the most painful scary thing I have lived through.
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    I actually don't dismiss him out of hand because he's male
    I dismiss him because he's got no idea what he's talking about...proved by the fact that he's going against the mountains of evidence


    I think male midwives are amazing
    I think midwives who haven't given birth are amazing ( :P ), but those are two groups who I rarely see claiming to know what it's actually like
    Anyone who claims to *know* childbirth by having watched it...is stupid

    (Tbh, I think it's just as silly when women claim to 'know' why other women birthed wrong/etc, based on her own experiences)

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    I don't think he meant any malice and he has a right to comment, but he really doesn't understand or know what it's like so his comment is not valid.

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    I don't think his views are invalid because he is a man, I think that they are invalid because he has never experienced and will never experience birth. I would feel the same if it was a woman who had never birthed said the same thing.

    What an ego!

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    I don't have an issue with what he has said.

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    I don't mind him having an opinion, it's hard not to have opinions! But in this case his opinion made him sound like a bit of an uneducated **** who knows butt crack all about giving birth, naturally or otherwise. As in all things if you don't know what you're talking about you might as well keep your opinions to yourself because you could end up looking foolish, like that dude!

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    He reminds me of my ex who'd had a cortisone injection in his ankle and his male doctor told him the pain was much worse than child birth.

    Since having a natural drug free posterior birth vs 11 cortisone injections, I'll take the injection any day.

    Males don't and never will truly understand what it's like to have a baby, natural or otherwise.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kimberleygal1 View Post
    I don't have an issue with what he has said.
    Really? You think it's fine for a man to tell women that he knows what childbirth is like because he watched it?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Atropos View Post
    Really? You think it's fine for a man to tell women that he knows what childbirth is like because he watched it?
    Well my dh was present for the entire 33 hours of my intense labour, although he didn't experience it himself as such he witnessed and watched what I went through, the interventions, the emotions etc so in my opinion he has a damn good idea what it is like so yes I do think a man can have a say. Having said that my second labour was short and sweet so had that been what my dh had witnessed first I would not think any comment he made would be valid.


 

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