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    Default Is a Man's opinion valid?

    So my ex-local hospital (where I had my boys before we moved) has just announced that women can no longer have water-births there. Their reason is that their whole birthing procedures are under review, and until conclusions and new guidelines have been drawn up, they will not under any circumstances allow women to birth in water. They do say, however, that women are welcome to use the water facilities during their labour.

    So, the local newspaper linked to their article on FB, and invited people to comment. This man commented, which drew a lot of flaming from women.

    WDYT- is his opinion valid, or should he keep quiet because he doesn't *truly* know what it's like to give birth?

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    Ummm nope. Grow a uterus, birth a baby and then have an opinion!!!

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    He sounds like a massive douche bag! There is no way he has any idea of what a woman goes through during labour!

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    I know women who think exactly the same as him and they have had children so I don't see what's wrong with it.

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    Kinda makes me wanna kick him in the nads and be all like "NONONO, I know what you're going through. Just bear with it. If you're going to be a douche, expect pain. Dont take pain killrrs for it, its an experience!"

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    What exactly about a water birth does he consider a luxury? It's hardly considered massive pain relief like drugs!!

    It sounds like he's implying that water birth will make labour so much easier and women should just suck it up?

    I had a water birth (lucky for me drug free) but in no way was it a breeze or any less painful!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by grooviechic35 View Post
    I know women who think exactly the same as him and they have had children so I don't see what's wrong with it.
    I guess the difference is they have the ability to experience what they're taking about?

    I would never tell a man to get a circumcision as an adult with no anesthetic, you know? Poor example, just trying to think of something gender specific

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    Our local hospital doesn't allow water births either. You can labour in the bath but once mum starts pushing, they have to let out the plug. The nurses say it's because the midwives aren't trained in water births. IMO I think they should train in all areas of birth so the mother has a number of options on what suits her best in labour.

    Re: males opinion. Well I think he should STFU!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nomsie View Post
    I guess the difference is they have the ability to experience what they're taking about?

    I would never tell a man to get a circumcision as an adult with no anesthetic, you know? Poor example, just trying to think of something gender specific
    Sorry I meant don't have children

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    Yes, I can handle people with differing opinions to mine (I've had loads of women saying similar stuff to me this pregnancy) but without going through it yourself I really don't think you have the right to tell someone to 'just deal with it' - which is essentially what he's saying.


 

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