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    Wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation... My s.i.l. (my brothers wife) has been my best friend for years and years. But over the last couple of years my relationship with my brother has slowly declined to the point where he didn't invite me to his birthday. We used to do a lot together (weekly dinners, etc) and have lots of mutual friends. I've never felt he had much respect for me tho and as I've gotten older I'm refusing to put up with it so I don't want to be around him as much.
    My sil however I still want to remain friends. Is it too much to ask? I sorta thought she could separate the issues with my brother and still see me as a friend but it seems like she can't do that or doesn't want to. I'm really upset about losing my best friend, even tho she will always be a nice sil.
    I'm interested to hear peoples advice
    We also both have kids who adore each other but they don't ase as much of each other anymore
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    you'll likely find that marriage trumps friendship.

    You don't say what caused the deterioration in your relationship with your brother, but is there a way of "mending" it to a point that things go 'back to normal' so your SIL and yourself still remain friends?

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    I've tried mending it many times but unfortunately I'm always the one who makes any effort or any changes. He just goes about doing what he's always done, never thinks he's at fault and dislikes when I disagree with him. there was not 1 issue just me getting sick of always having to be agreeable, etc.
    I just feel he has tainted my relationship with my sil by saying things that aren't true (he always thinks he knows what/how I think but half the time he's wrong). I want to try and tell her its not like she thinks but I guess she will always believe him over me. Sad but understandable I guess

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