I would wait for someone who is a bit more balanced in all areas.
If I had to choose though, Mr Unstable.
I recall from previous threads that your marriage has recently ended. You might be best to be on your own for a bit?
Lack of empathy and controlling- no thanks... They are worrying personality traits, regardless of his financial prospects.
Is one of them your ex husband?
I agree with neither, sorry. Don't settle for less than you deserve because you are afraid to be alone (if that's the case). What if the actual 'Mr Perfect" was just around the corner? Sometimes (I have learnt) you can end up settling and then become stuck in an unhealthy and unhappy relationship for far too long.
Hmm, tough one. I think probably Mr Unstable so long as he pocessed enough stability to be reliable.
Neither. If your picking out faults with either of them, they are not for you.
Honestly, you should be with someone because you love them and because you can see a future with them.
You haven't described your feelings for either of these men. Why is that?
Number 2, but take things slow. You need time to be ok alone, but there is nothing wrong with a bit of fun and company.
I can't judge, I met my DP 1 week after I ended my marriage. We were just good friends with benefits for a while, well thats what we told ourselves lol
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Yes, Mr Stable is my xdh. Although he is really bending over backs to make some positive changes, so much so I can feel myself falling for him again. Hes listen to me & making me feel loved im just so confused. Space is not an option as we have shared care of DD.
mr unstable is an old friend of mine. I ended our friendship years ago as it was interfering with my relationship with DH (who wasn't my DH at the time) DH (who was then bf) was uncomfortable with the friendship & tbh rightly so.
Mr Unstable has recently reappeared, confessed his love for me, wants to be together, he said lots of things, things DH should've said, like he can't bare to be without me, it actually 'hurts' not to have me in his life, wants to build a life together, happy to wait as long as it takes, what does my heart say etc It's pretty full on. I just want to crawl into a cave & wait for the world to pass.
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