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    That's such a great thing to hear, he sounded like a mum of one that couldn't comprehend how she could love number two as much.... Until she had number two....

    Congratulations on your son, it DOES seem like you have been pregnant for ever! So glad for you all xxxxxxxxx

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    Congratulations on birth of your bub. I am glad your dh had a turn around.

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    Hmmmm didnt think id be back here but I am. So thankfully DH has remained kind and soft hearted toward our DS..... for the 5 minutes a day of interaction he throws his way.
    He rarely holds our son, hasnt changed his clothes, a nappy or bathed him since I brought him home. DS is 10 wks old. I have left DS at home to run to the shops "maybe" 5 times. Each time arriving home to DH handing him to me saying he wants you. Ive been sleeping in a different room with bub since he came home.

    Tonight DH after me having it out with him regarding his general nastiness to me and other kids told me that he never wanted another kid because kids wreck everything.

    I feel so incredibly sorry for my son. Thankfully his older brothers especially adore him and do everything and anything for him.

    I should also add that unfortunately DSD has zero interest in him. Zero. Just like her father. I actually kind of find it disturbing.

    Vent over.

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    I'm so sorry to read this. My husband said exactly the same thing - that kids wreck everything. No. Kids are innocent and perfect and the pure essence of love. I understand how hurtful it must have been to hear him say that. No words, just hugs x

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    In all honesty I just think hes a d$#khead now. Our son was 3 plus years and thousands in the making.

    Im definetly done and actually wish I had trusted my gut instinct and left while pregnant. Im just scared where to from here.

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    I have finally just read all of this and I just wanted to say I hope you are okay!

    I was in a situation where I decided while pregnant with DS2 that I couldn't handle his dad anymore but of course assuming it was pregnancy hormones I left it. I did discuss things with him but it never changed. Then when DS2 was born we had a honeymoon period of 2 weeks when everything was fantastic and I was thinking I must have been crazy to be so worried. Then it all went back to normal! I didn't leave till DS2 was 11 months old cause I desperately wanted to try to work it out. In the end I was left feeling like I wished I had listen to myself when pregnant!

    How can your husband say he didn't want another child after all you went through to have him?? I mean it certainly wasn't an accident!!!!! Don't be afraid to leave this idiot! Are all your plans still in place for leaving? Just try to enjoy that beautiful baby boy you have! I'm glad his big brothers adore him.

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    Emilsmum thankyou for your reply. Yes I thought during pregnancy that pregnancy hormones were a contributing factor and like yourself we had a brief happy honeymoon period sort of. My husbands interest in our son is almost zero. So since we got home from hodpital hes held him for 5 mins a day if that. But mostly its a few minutes interaction while im feeding him. Our son has over last 2 weeks started to get properly upset if DH picks him up. Its really sad.

    As for my plans yes ive still got them in place and have started fast tracking them. I have my own bank account again that "my" money goes into. Ive paid off some niggly bills and startdd stocking up on things. Our lease here ends in september so I think that will be my time to make a move.

    Even with this im enjoying my son soooooo much. Hes such a delightful baby

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    Big hugs Op. I haven't read the whole thread but a few sad words touched me. Hugs hugs hugs to you and your ds.

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    How sas for your DS My DS2 has no idea who his Dad was and woukd scream whenever he was picked up by him! My exh waa just never there and spent no time with our kids.


    I'm glad you're still able to enjoy your DS! And very glad you've got all your plans in place!! *hugs* it sucks that you're here in this position

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    sorry to read your latest update. All the best working out which way forward is the best way for you and your kids. xx


 

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