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    Default Explaining death to a 2yo?

    Any tips on how to explain death to my (just) 2yo dd?

    My Grandpa died yesterday after a short illness and I'm trying to explain to her that he will no longer be around, but I'm not sure how to explain it in 2yo language. She keeps saying "Great-Grandpa is very sick" and we've told her that he has died, but I'm not sure of a way to explain that further.

    Or do you just keep saying it when she mentions him? And eventually she'll understand?

    My Grandma died when our ds was 7 months old and then my dh's Grandma died 18 months ago, so our ds was 5 then and able to understand a lot more. So, explaining death to a 2yo is new to me. We don't have pets that have died so no analogy possible there.

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    Hugs, I'm sorry for your loss.

    I'm not sure a 2yo will understand. We've lost a pet and a family member in the last 6 months and our 4yo doesn't really understand I don't think.

    I told him both times that they were sick and have died. He's turned that into they are having a big sleep.

    I'd keep it fairly simple, I think if you just keep repeating it, she might understand.

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    Hugs hun. I'm sorry for your loss.

    Maybe just explain again that he has passed and is now in heaven (if your comfortable with that). You could point out a star and say that's where great grandad is now.

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    So sorry....

    Try to avoid communicating to him that people die after they are sick...it can send some kids into panic mode if you, or they get sick...

    i say, "grandpa's body stopped working, and he has gone to heaven, so we don't get to see him anymore, and that's why we are feeling sad..."

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    My 2 year old niece has lost her Nanna and their family dog over the last 6 months or so. She seems to understand, as much as a little one can. My sister just says that Nanna has died and she won't be coming back to see us but we can always see her and talk to her in photos, etc. I imagine each kid's understanding would be different though.

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    Quote Originally Posted by dancingchipmunk View Post
    Hugs hun. I'm sorry for your loss.

    Maybe just explain again that he has passed and is now in heaven (if your comfortable with that). You could point out a star and say that's where great grandad is now.

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    This is how my parents explained the passing of my Nan to me 25 years ago when I was 5. I still look back and am grateful to have been able to look up at the night sky fondly. I'd do this. I'm sure this would be appropriate for a 2 year old. My parents did it of a night time.

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    Thanks everyone. All great and simple ideas. She saw him a lot so this won't be that easy as she will definitely notice he's not around. She just said "see Great-Grandpa tomorrow?". Long week ahead ...

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    Hugs. Im so sorry for your loss.

    I know its not the same, but my dad's horse had to be put down afew months ago (2.5yo ds very attached to this particular horse) and I didn't think he'd really understand so we said that Bucca was gone from earth but he is now a star in the sky.

    Ds still says to me "bucca gone" and looks up at the sky, so I think he totally understood that concept. When he asks to see him I just remind him we have to wait for the stars to come out then look for the special star.


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    It's best to tell them literally. Like his heart got to old and broke and can't be fixed. Like a broken toy. I think the abstract stuff of heaven etc can be too confusing. My brother died when DD was 2 and we talk of him a lot.

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