I'd say my kids are my life too. It was great when they were babies but now they need me less I want to find something more for me. I don't think it has to be a super social thing that depends on your personality and circumstances. I have a few great friends and I'd be lost without them but I don't have an active social life - kids and house take up so much time and are my priority. If you already have a job organised you are doing well enjoy making your family everything you will at least be exposed to the outside world once back at work. But I know how you feel that there's a kind of judgement if you aren't socialising or appearing to get me time. Some people need more outside of family/ home some don't. The only thing I would say is I'm personally finding it harder to find things outside of home after being so absorbed with the kids but I'm trying to make an effort - or I was until this surprise pregnancy has thrown things up in the air again!