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    Quote Originally Posted by Trusty Chords View Post
    This happened to a south african family years ago and one of the mother's ended up with both because her bio child left his raised parents for the better life his bio mum had. It was very very sad especially the rift between bio and raised children.
    I remember this one, it was so tragic all around, especially when both boys lives were polar opposites, one was raised in poverty and the other in wealth and it became a case of 'grass is always greener on the other side' or so one boy thought. Very sad.

    In answer to the OP, I wouldn't give up the child I had loved, nurtured and raised, even though I know a part of me would mourn the loss of the chance to have raised my bio child, I couldn't 'swap' back so to speak.

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    Quote Originally Posted by dancingchipmunk View Post
    I would keep the child I had raised but I'd be devastated that I'd not had my biological child all that time.
    I would hope I'd be able to meet and develop a relationship with my bio child (say like an Aunty type one) and would hope for the same for my child and their bio mum.



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    This. It would be so shattering to find out if that happened.

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    I could never swap back. Imagine how scared the child would be. Whats the law like regarding this, can the bio mum demand her child back?

    I feel sick thinking about it


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    I'd keep my baby, no way would I let her go. I'd be open to the biological parents have a relationship with her & is defiantly want one with my bio child but the idea of living without the baby I'd raised would never be an option.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Miados2007 View Post
    Not sure. I was so paranoid in hospital that someone would steel my bubba I didnt sleep. When I dozed I had one hand on the bar of the crib!

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    Haha this was me! My beautiful bub didn't cry for days, I thought someone would steal her for sure! I now believe this was due to the meds.. Because she's a crazy wild out of control 3yo.

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    Yeah that's what I want to know Zombie, what if the other Mum demanded her child back? One reason I homebirth

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    I can't swap back. I would try to have an open relationship with the other family. Treat them like extended family etc have play dates but there is NO WAY I could pass up the child I raised.

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    I believe a child is a product of their environment, so I couldn't hand one back that I had raised as my own. Of course I would want to meet the biological child, but not 'swap'. My DD looks nothing like her sister, I started to get paranoid about this, which is ridiculous as she was csection delivered and triple tagged at birth, but a few months on I found myself comparing the now to her birth photos - just to be sure So yes, I have thought of this scenario lol!

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    When a child is born, do they put one of those wrist bands on them? I'm due in February, I've thought about drawing on the baby's foot with permanent marker or something as soon as it comes out, I dunno why I think about these things, but it freaks me out!

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    Quote Originally Posted by DaenerysT View Post
    When a child is born, do they put one of those wrist bands on them? I'm due in February, I've thought about drawing on the baby's foot with permanent marker or something as soon as it comes out, I dunno why I think about these things, but it freaks me out!
    Our hospital puts an id band around bubs ankle and one around their wrist.

    If it happened to me I would want to keep the child I was raising, but I would also want to know my biological child and develop some sort of long term relationship with them. Would also encourage the child I was raising to know their bio family.


 

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