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    Default *Spin-Off* Would you de-friend someone based on something you don't agree with?

    So, after reading that thread about terminating pregnancies based on gender, I haven't been able to stop thinking about it... It just makes me so angry & I really don't think I could have someone like that in my life...

    Would you de-friend someone based on something you don't agree on??? & I'm not talking peanut butter or Vegemite on toast... I'm talking big issues like abortion, parenting style, etc etc.

    I find that for me personally, I generally seem to surround myself with like minded people or people who possess qualities I admire.

    ETA: In saying that, I do enjoy having people in my life who challenge my views... So I guess it depends on how strongly I feel about a topic.. If it was something I completely & utterly disagreed with & it changed my entire perception of this person.. I don't know if I could maintain a friendship with them.
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    Nope ... I wouldn't talk about that particular subject with them though. I value my friends and I'm quite eclectic in those I socialise with so I don't need them all to agree with me. If they were a good person and fun to be around I'd still happily have them in my life.

    I'd sooner avoid 'friends' who are judgemental or gossip to be honest.

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    Depends on the issue. If it's like the couple aborting because of gender then yes I would instantly. But that's me. I just couldn't be friends with people that have those morals. As for parenting styles, I have a few friends that have totally different parenting styles, and we are still friends, I wouldn't ruin a friendship over it, at the end of the day they go home and live their own lives, and I continue with mine the way I want.

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    Yeah I think for me it's more of a moral thing... Like if I found out they were abusing their children, etc... That would be a deal breaker for me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cassieh View Post
    Yeah I think for me it's more of a moral thing... Like if I found out they were abusing their children, etc... That would be a deal breaker for me.
    Oh absolutely - me too, but that's not just a parenting style or choice to abort ... That's illegal and I'd report them as well.

    If one of my friends starting displaying criminal behaviour I'd easily walk away from the friendship.
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    Probably not, but I guess it would depend on the topic/issue. I have my own views (like everyone else does) on certain hot topics like abortion, gay marriage, asylum seekers etc that do not agree with some of my friends, fb and face to face.

    If they post stuff that I don't agree with I don't comment or anything, I don't feel it's worth the fight IYKWIM. If however I posted something and they decide to lay into me about it and won't just agree to disagree, well hmmmm I think I possibly would. I don't appreciate having other peoples opinions rammed in my face

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    I'd normally say no but after reading the abortion if it's a girl thread I changed my mind. I'd I think our values are just too different . I work with refugees ( with visas , permenate residents - not asylum seekers) and I've had a friend drop me and I have a sneaky suspicious it was because of this issue as she was very anti refugees/asylum seekers. ( she was also very ignorant on the topic and had know desire to be better informed so no great loss actually!).

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    Quote Originally Posted by CatesBean View Post
    Probably not, but I guess it would depend on the topic/issue. I have my own views (like everyone else does) on certain hot topics like abortion, gay marriage, asylum seekers etc that do not agree with some of my friends, fb and face to face.

    If they post stuff that I don't agree with I don't comment or anything, I don't feel it's worth the fight IYKWIM. If however I posted something and they decide to lay into me about it and won't just agree to disagree, well hmmmm I think I possibly would. I don't appreciate having other peoples opinions rammed in my face
    Yes this exactly.

    I don't need or want my friends to have the same views as me. I think it's best to leave certain topics alone & just agree to disagree.

    If however they were continually posting things on Facebook or making comments/arguments that I found offensive then I probably would. An example was an ex-colleague would always put anti-abortion comments on Facebook and once invited all his friends to an anti-abortion rally. I just wrote, "sorry, I'm busy that day enjoying the rights to my own body" and defriended him.

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    Yes. Parenting syles, no. Abortion based on gender, absolutely. I dont think id be able to look at them after disclosing something like that to me.

    Ive had the pain of a miscarriage and a d&c and to me a d&c is the same as an abortion. They are the same procedure only one is alive and one isnt. I cant twll you how much guilt and grief I had over it, even tho my baby was dead.

    Ive also been trying for 14/15 months for baby number 2 and know the pain of wanting a baby so bad but not getting it. People that get pregnant so easily just dont get it.

    Thats probably the only reason I would de friend someone. But its a big deal.
    Ive got alot of friends who are parents who have totally different styles to me but I dont care cos mine is different to theirs

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    I would find it difficult to continue on with the friendship if it was something completely against my beliefs


 

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