I agree that it will sort itself out over time, but I remember how long that time felt! My son wouldn't take a dummy for a long time, and absolutely resisted being swaddled. I ended up co-sleeping a lot - there are ways that are safer than others which might be worth googling. I was able to sleep without moving a muscle, which surprised me, but I did have a huge fear of SIDS and spent the first few seconds after waking in absolute guilty fear, watching for the relief of seeing my son breathing. I was so desperate for sleep I just did what I had to.
Just wondering - can you pop him in his bouncer in your bedroom overnight? Otherwise, do you have a nice comfy couch or recliner so you can get some rest sitting up while holding him?