+ Reply to Thread
Page 2 of 3 FirstFirst 123 LastLast
Results 11 to 20 of 25
  1. #11
    Join Date
    Aug 2012
    Posts
    1,878
    Thanks
    76
    Thanked
    629
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by Miados2007 View Post
    I think 11 is young as well, but im not there yet with my kids so who knows how I will feel then.

    Sent from my GT-I9505 using The Bub Hub mobile app
    This, I still think 11 is too young to be out on their own but I guess I will assess DD when we get to that age

  2. #12
    Join Date
    Jan 2012
    Posts
    2,720
    Thanks
    1,518
    Thanked
    1,950
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by beebs View Post
    11 is young, I thought it was illegal to leave kids under 12 by themselves anyway? I could be wrong though.
    There's no legal age. You could be charged with neglect if you left an irresponsible 15 year old on their own, who you knew was likely to panic, go harrass people etc. etc.

    It's about what's considered reasonable/foreseeable given your particular child/family/circumstance.

    I think it's ridiculous to suggest that all 11 year olds should be directly supervised at all times. It depends so much on the individual and their family.

  3. The Following User Says Thank You to Renn For This Useful Post:

    sockstealingpoltergeist  (22-10-2013)

  4. #13
    Join Date
    Nov 2007
    Posts
    19,776
    Thanks
    5,212
    Thanked
    7,063
    Reviews
    1
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 posts
    People have absolutely no idea of the situation. I have no idea where they come up with this stuff with no knowledge.

    I was telling DP this morning I try my hardest to not make judgements on situations like this because I may well be eating my hat in a few years and I could be the "bad parent" with the "bad child".

    I get the feeling mine won't be ready to be left alone by age 11, but I know heaps of children who are ready by that age. Myself included. I don't know many perfect children though who never stuff up which is why I am often miffed at a lot of comments.

  5. The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to Benji For This Useful Post:

    Miados2007  (22-10-2013),River Song  (22-10-2013),sockstealingpoltergeist  (22-10-2013)

  6. #14
    Join Date
    Sep 2009
    Posts
    4,660
    Thanks
    1,961
    Thanked
    2,567
    Reviews
    6
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    'Bad parent of the year award' goes to.... Me! My 3 yo is often outside without my direct supervision. I'll be over the other side of a big yard pegging washing or inside feeding DS2. And when DS1 goes to the farm with his dad he wanders off and does his own thing. By 11 I imagine they will be driving themselves to the bus stop and coming home after school by themselves.

  7. #15
    Join Date
    Jul 2011
    Posts
    3,525
    Thanks
    1,890
    Thanked
    2,539
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by Benji View Post
    People have absolutely no idea of the situation...

    I was telling DP this morning I try my hardest to not make judgements on situations like this because I may well be eating my hat in a few years and I could be the "bad parent" with the "bad child". .
    True!

    My older brother was always the most sensible one out of all of us, such a straight-laced kind if kid, school captain in primary school. But he got brought home by the police one day for throwing rocks on a freeway!! Utterly stupid!! But he happened to be with the local naughty boy that day and just went along with them. The parents were so mortified, and he was punished but he's no evil spawn, just totally stupid that day. I think he was too scared to not join in. Anyway, still as an adult he is a decent member of society, doesn't even drink.

    We really don't know anything about it, but people are always most judge when they don't have all the information.

  8. The Following User Says Thank You to Ellewood For This Useful Post:

    sockstealingpoltergeist  (22-10-2013)

  9. #16
    Join Date
    Oct 2007
    Location
    Haunted House
    Posts
    10,891
    Thanks
    1,538
    Thanked
    1,568
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 posts
    When I was 11 I was out climbing trees, and riding my bike and often getting into mischief. My parents knew we were in the neighbourhood, but other then that nope.


    My son right now is 7, but once he gets to high school I will be giving him more freedom, he will learn to make decisions and navigate the world. I think it's an important part of growing up. I did it with my daughter, and have read so many studies about it that I think it's extremely important to good development.

  10. #17
    Join Date
    Nov 2007
    Posts
    19,776
    Thanks
    5,212
    Thanked
    7,063
    Reviews
    1
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by Fleetwood View Post
    True!

    My older brother was always the most sensible one out of all of us, such a straight-laced kind if kid, school captain in primary school. But he got brought home by the police one day for throwing rocks on a freeway!! Utterly stupid!! But he happened to be with the local naughty boy that day and just went along with them. The parents were so mortified, and he was punished but he's no evil spawn, just totally stupid that day. I think he was too scared to not join in. Anyway, still as an adult he is a decent member of society, doesn't even drink.

    We really don't know anything about it, but people are always most judge when they don't have all the information.
    My DP did exactly the same thing!! Throwing rocks at cars - and he was on his own. He is so thankful NOW that he didn't hurt anyone but at the time he was a kid and he genuinely didn't know he could have caused some serious damage. DP was in the top 5% of the State for his school grades, went to university, is a computer programming nerd, has never even smoked a cigarette and grew up in a Christian household. He just did one stupid thing. Not his parent's 'fault'.

  11. The Following User Says Thank You to Benji For This Useful Post:

    sockstealingpoltergeist  (22-10-2013)

  12. #18
    Join Date
    May 2006
    Posts
    10,012
    Thanks
    14,124
    Thanked
    7,612
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 posts
    Awards:
    100 Posts in a week
    Um, read my post. I did NOT say that all 11 year olds should be directly supervised at all times. For me, myself, I believe 11 is too young, others have their own risk assessments and that is fine for them. I have no problem with that at all.

    As to playing on their own in the backyard. There is a big difference between that and what we are talking about.

    I don't think this 11 year old should get off scot free. Maybe he needs to be forced to do some community service, maybe helping out with the clean up from the fires.


    Quote Originally Posted by Renn View Post
    There's no legal age. You could be charged with neglect if you left an irresponsible 15 year old on their own, who you knew was likely to panic, go harrass people etc. etc.

    It's about what's considered reasonable/foreseeable given your particular child/family/circumstance.

    I think it's ridiculous to suggest that all 11 year olds should be directly supervised at all times. It depends so much on the individual and their family.

  13. The Following User Says Thank You to beebs For This Useful Post:

    Patience Belmont  (22-10-2013)

  14. #19
    Join Date
    Dec 2009
    Posts
    621
    Thanks
    133
    Thanked
    147
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    No, at 11 they don't need parents hovering over them but they still need supervision. Yes it was different back when I was younger. We lived on a farm so was out running around, however we now live in the suburbs, there are lunatics that drive on the street, child abductions have risen (am assuming here) and at 11, I personally don't think my children will be old enough, and if I can do something that may prevent any harm I will

  15. #20
    Join Date
    Jan 2012
    Posts
    2,720
    Thanks
    1,518
    Thanked
    1,950
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    @beebs. I didn't mean YOU were suggesting direct supervision. I was only replying to you in the first part of my post (regarding a legal age).

  16. The Following User Says Thank You to Renn For This Useful Post:

    beebs  (22-10-2013)


 

Similar Threads

  1. Replies: 192
    Last Post: 23-10-2013, 22:20
  2. Spin off; how do you teach your children gratitude
    By Zombie_eyes in forum General Chat
    Replies: 14
    Last Post: 19-08-2013, 17:54
  3. Replies: 156
    Last Post: 10-05-2013, 07:01

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
christmas gift guidesee all Red Stocking
Einsteinz Music
Make music at Einsteinz Music in age-appropriate class in Sydney's Inner West, Eastern Suburbs or North Shore. For ages 6 mths - 4 yrs. All music is live! Christmas Gift certificates available for full term or casual classes. Call 0431 338 143
sales & new stuffsee all
Wendys Music School Melbourne
Wondering about Music Lessons? FREE 30 minute ASSESSMENT. Find out if your child is ready! Piano from age 3 years & Guitar, Singing, Drums, Violin from age 5. Lessons available for all ages. 35+ years experience. Structured program.
Use referral 'bubhub' when booking
featured supporter
The Health Hub & Glowing Expectations
Glowing Expectations is conveniently located at The Health Hub in Darlinghurst. We offer pre & post natal personal training, small group pregnancy exercise classes, flexible mums & bubs sessions, massage, & naturopathy in our air-conditioned studio.
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!