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    Default Toddler not going to sleep ... do you let them get up?

    Ok, so our 2yo dd often decides that bedtime is a great time to be wide awake instead of sleepy. She'll be sleepy all day, then perk up right as we're getting her ready for bed. So, how long would you persist before giving up and trying again later?

    We're currently spending up to 1.5 hours trying to settle her in the cot in the evening. We sit in the rocking chair sometimes with her, but mostly with her in the cot. We tell stories or sing songs and eventually she goes to sleep. BUT it drives me nuts!

    I think she needs a later bed time, but then she'll come to me and ask to go to bed at 7 or 7:30pm so I think "maybe tonight she'll go to sleep early & easily" and sometimes (rarely) she does.

    So, do you give up once you've put them in the cot, or do you insist that they stay there?

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    DS was refusing tonight too. We let him have a good cry for about 10 minutes and realised he wasn't sleeping so we got him up for 15 minutes, tried again and he went straight down. I usually get him back up if he doesn't go down straight away and most of them time the second try he goes down without fuss.

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    I have 3 kids ... all started going to bed later and later after 2 years old. If they sleep during the day, then it's 9pm for bedtime.

    With my first 2 I fought so hard to get them to bed by 7pm.

    Now I just accept that he's up to 9 and go about my evening while he watches the tv, plays toys, or plays on the iPad (he's 3 now). ATM he is watching Yo Gabba Gabba

    Honestly, I wish I had given in so much sooner with the other 2 kids. I could have saved myself a world of pain.

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    Does she still have a day nap? DD was like that when she was ready to drop her day nap just after she turned 2. Now she doesn't nap and falls asleep very easily. If she has a nap at daycare or because of an early morning she is hard to get to sleep again, we leave her in her bed though and she chats to herself and plays with her teddy bear for 1-2 hours (!!!!) before she falls asleep. If we got her up she would wake herself up even more.

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    No I absolutely don't let him get up. I am firm every night about bed time and he knows that. Sometimes yep it takes hours but I march him back upstairs and back to bed every time he comes down.

    could you try putting her down earlier? She sounds overtired - I find it's impossible to get them to sleep once they get overtired. I'd be more inclined to put her down earlier rather than later. It worked for DS since he has (mostly) dropped his day nap.

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    We've always got our boys back up for a cuddle if they are having trouble going to sleep. Our eldest two rarely get up now once they're in bed, if they do they are genuinely not tired yet. It's cuddles on the couch for another 20 minutes or so, and they go down without a fuss.
    Ds3 sleeps with one of us, and we do the same thing. Lay with him to go to bed at 7.30, but if he's struggling to get to sleep, more cuddles on the couch until he's tired.

    I couldn't think of anything worse than being made to stay in bed if I wasn't tired. Don't get me wrong, f they're mcking around and we know they're overtired or exhausted they get told its sleep time. It's just when they're genuinely not tired yet because of a longer or later nap than usual etc...

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    I'm having this issue with my just turned 2yr old too.

    His lunch time nap, he goes straight to sleep and it's usually 2hrs. At night time, he's taking an hour at least to go to sleep. It's driving me insane as I'm a single mum now so evenings are my only 'me' time!

    I'm wondering if this means he's due to drop his nap? But he's asking to go to sleep at lunch, so seriously doubt he'd last the whole day anyway.

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    I'd still give a day nap but shorten it. I wake DD up after 1.5 hours. Before 2 I could let her sleep for ages but after 2 she turned into a nightmare to get to sleep.

    I put her down now with toys in her bed to play with and a sipper cup of milk. If she gets up I put her straight back. We had bad time where she would cry for me for ten minutes and I'd sit outside her door crying, but thankfully that's passed (when I gave in and went to her she laughed in my face gleefully).

    I let her sleep a bit later on her day sleep today and she took 1.5 hours to fall asleep tonight!! Back to being mean mummy tomorrow and waking her up after 1.5 hours. Not sure how long your day sleep is but drop it back.

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    My DD has just turned 2 as well. Because I work I find it impossible to get dinner, bath and bed all done by 8:30pm so often DD goes to bed at 9pm. She's quite happy in the evening and goes down easily...falls asleep by herself within 10 minutes (generally just chats until she drifts off).

    I'm strict on the kids, I don't let them get up after I've put them to bed. Having said that, I don't put them to bed too early. If DD has had a long day nap I don't even bother putting her to bed before 9pm.

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    I'm going through the same sort of thing!!! My dd is 21mths and I've been considering dropping her day sleep, but she needs it as she asks to go for a sleep at 10 or 11!!!

    We are going through a dreadful stage where she wants to sleep in her floor So tonight after a struggle her toys are in her bed and she is sleeping on her little fold out couch! It's the only place she would stay without coming out.

    I think if they aren't ready to go down then sometimes rescheduling the bedtime ritual for 15mins is ok..... Sometimes it works for me sometimes it backfires terribly!


 

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