I'm so sorry you went through all of that. I agree with Delirium - these things need to be reported.
Please be assured that if the only thing on "record" is a report, and no action was taken, then it is completely confidential and the only people who will ever see/know it are child protection practitioners. It is not a criminal charge, it is not available to employers or anyone else. You are basically in the same position as someone who was reported and it was found that the report was completely false - the record will still be there but nothing will come of it without further incident.
Last edited by ozeymumof5; 21-10-2013 at 15:13.
Im sorry you have gone through this but why do you think your family is above the law? Things have to be reported for a reason. The police weren't to know you were telling the truth about your husband being effected by medication and know it was a once off. For all they knew you were talking crap to protect your abuser.
To say you will never call the police again is quite childish, they were just doing their job.
It's called *mandatory* notification for a reason. Those of us who are mandated notifiers simply do not have a choice. It is an offence for us not to report, and we cannot simply give the benefit of the doubt. I have had to make some heartbreaking notifications involving families that I care about deeply. I have also had my anonymity compromised while working in the lands with the result being my house broken into and trashed and being followed around and threatened by extended family for weeks and weeks. The confidentiality of the reporter is fundamental to the system working as it should.
I'm not sure I understand the basis on which you filed a complaint. I am of the opinion that you can never be too cautious in these situations. But I will add that notification can also involve at risk children rather than children where abuse or neglect is definitely occurring. More often than not these notifications remain in the system unchecked unless there are repeated calls over a period of time. I certainly hope that you would call the police again if you needed to.
It sad Caviar, your family are obviously one of the ones that slipped through the cracks. But as others have said, I can understand why they reported it. They probably hear those type of things all the time "it has never happened before" type things.
It isn't fair that it happened to you though, so good on you for fighting for it.
But the police did the right thing, how would that turn people off asking for help? If they don't report because they think it's a one off, imagine how many people that need to be reported wouldn't be.
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