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    Default *spin off* unplanned pregnancies

    Why is it OK to have an unplanned pregnancy when there are 1, 2 or even 3 kids already in the family, but society finds it distasteful to have an unexpected pregnancy when there are more children already in the family?

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    In terms of not being able to live within your means?

    Well... if you PLAN to fall pregnant under crappy circumstances, that's pretty dumb.

    If you just get knocked up despite attempts to avoid that situation... well, it's not like you went out of your way to make life harder for yourself AND your children.

    If you try to avoid pregnancy but fall pregnant anyway... can you really be held accountable? I mean, accidents happen. If you go out of your way to bring a baby into a sh*t situation, then that just makes you stupid.

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    I don't think this is the case. My first was unplanned and I got many raised eyebrows from people when they found out. I had some family members say some pretty distasteful things about it, despite the fact that I was in a relatively positive position to welcome an unplanned pregnancy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by schmetterling18 View Post
    I don't think this is the case. My first was unplanned and I got many raised eyebrows from people when they found out. I had some family members say some pretty distasteful things about it, despite the fact that I was in a relatively positive position to welcome an unplanned pregnancy.
    I got the nasties when I fell pregnant unexpectedly with ds1 as well.

    I don't think it matters what number child it is, there will always be people who frown upon unplanned pregnancies.

    But in saying that, I guess maybe some people are just like 'well you should have known better', like you already have x children so that somehow means you should never have an accident and adding to your family will place more pressure on you/society (this is from my experience with certain members of my family).

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    Personally i feel if you are struggling financially to begin with ( and its not just a temporary down on your luck situation- im talking long term depending on welfare always have always will cases) then you should do everything to prevent "unplanned " pregnancies. Which include both partners using birth control. If both parties use birth control then statistically they have higher odds winning Saturday lotto than to fall pregnant again.
    If an accident does occur and you were doing everything to prevent it ( ie BOTH parties CORRECTLY using birth control) then that can't be helped and bub is honestly a blessing.

    And before you go on about the cost of birth control I know that many family planning clinics provide free or very lost cost birth control options - and really the cost of a packet of condoms for the week is still cheaper than a packet of nappies.

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    I don't find having children distasteful, children are wonderful.

    I do think its right that people who are abusive or neglectful, no matter what situation having children.


 

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