Without relying on welfare...
I am sure this will start debates but hopefully we can discuss it as adults and respect others points of view if not agree...
Is it ok to have children if you cant afford it? And I mean really afford the basics??.
Is it ok to have another child with the attitude that you have welfare to support you?
Would said people have this many children if we did not have such a generous welfare system in Australia?
I know people with large families and small families and in my experience those that can least afford to have large families do and those that could afford to have large families don't - why is this?
What role does your childhood/upbringing play in this?
My childhood I was raised by a very poor alcoholic mother who not only relied on welfare but assumed ( and still does) that it is her right to get it even though she has not held a job or paid tax for almost 40 years. All my clothes were from the secondhand store ( which is trendy now - it was NOT when I was a child) , we got donations from the Salvo's at Christmas and I was chosen out of all the kids in my school to go to a holiday camp for disadvantaged children. We were poor.
My childhood heavily influenced what I wanted for my own children ( and more importantly what I did NOT want) when the time came.
For the record we have three - we were planning 2 and finances were a huge part of that and the opportunities we wanted to give our two children. Our beautiful 3rd bubba came along by accident and I would change nothing but it has impacted significantly on our financial situation and I can't deny that. DH is looking at getting a higher paid job and I will be returning to a different job that pays more when I return to work so we can try and continue to provide the lifestyle we want for our children.
So - opinions? And I apologise in advance to Mods if this gets out of control!!!