DS us only just 3, but he is often terrible at joining in group activities and will only join in when he feel like it thank you very much! When he's good, he's an angel, but when he is gets his stubborn on he simply refuses to listen and there is no telling/asking him, he will either completely ignore me, laugh, or put on his big frowny face and cry.
I know toddlers can be like this, but he is worse than others his age at listening, and when he is like this I feel completely useless (trust me I've tried talking him through it, on his level, being firm and even threatening if he's being a royal brat!).
Often, he is tired. He has always been a very early riser no matter his bedtime and toddler activities are always mid-morning which is the worst time for him. But I don't think it's as simple as being tired, he can be a bad listener in general and is quite stubborn (like his mother I suppose in some ways). Today, he accidentally bumped another toddler on the trampoline and then got so upset! Just sat there crying as I tried to rub it off and tell its it's fine accidents happen.
He is so unpredictable to take out. I never know if he is going to be good today or just wander off his own way and flop to the floor if I try to make him go a different way. It's very difficult because I'm often carrying bags and can't carry him too so I feel very stuck at those times.
Basically, if he doesn't want to do something he simply won't, and there's no talking him around.
On the other hand people are always telling me what a wonderful, sweet and well-mannered, bright and happy boy he is! Yes I say, not always!!
I do think he is a normal toddler but in some ways worse than others and has trouble keeping his attention during group activities especially. What do I do? I don't think pulling him away from the class at those times will necessarily be the best course of action as won't he just learn that you quit when things get hard or boring? He often bounces back within 5-10 minutes and re-joins the group.
It stresses me out - any ideas?
Sorry a bit long! Just kept typing away while he is asleep!