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    Default Do you think that an unhealthy relationship affects the kids?

    So... I know this girl... Let's call her X... She has two kids... 1 to Y & 1 to Z.

    She was originally with Y, fell pregnant & broke up with him... She then was dating & living with Z, Fell pregnant & got engaged to Z... She then broke up with him & went back to Y.

    She then broke up with him & went back to Z.. Then back to Y & now back living with Z.

    So I know there is obviously worse relationships out there in terms of domestic violence, etc... But I would class this fairly unhealthy. I wonder how her two kids feel going back & forth all the time? Wouldn't it be confusing for them?? A part of me thinks she needs to sort her self out & pick who she wants to be with & stop with the back & forth. I also find it amazing that Z & Y continue to take her back. But anyway...

    Do you think that unhealthy relationships affect the children involved?

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    Without a doubt.

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    Yes, I believe they ABSOLUTELY do and I have many friends that are affected by the 'relationships' that have played out in front of them during their upbringing.

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    Yes, of course.

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    Definitely!

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    Yes, most definitely.

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    Yes, very confusing for the children.

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    Yes. How confusing that must be for the children.

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    Yes and no. When I was single I had three boyfriends over a span of 7 years before I met and married my DH and I don't think my older kids are any worse of because of it. I think it depends on how you parent the kids - if they are being emotionally neglected than it would affect them definitely.

    In your friends case, maybe the fact that it's only two guys is better than a different guy each time?

    It sounds like she needs some time being single to sort out what she wants from a future relationship.

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    I think being flippant with your love life, if you choose to live that life in front of your kids, is not good for the kids.

    How terrible and confused the kids must feel being dragged from one home/father to another. You can't just expect your kids to continually make special bonds with adults and then break them. It sounds like your friend needs to grow up.

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