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    Default Do you sugar coat your opinion??

    A lot of the time I often see people engaging in debates on bub hub (I've been in a few myself)... Over people having different opinions... Or believing that someone has written something with a nasty tone or writing something as a personal attack towards a specific group of people...

    I'm curious to know how many people on here hold back on saying what they 'really' think... For fear of backlash & being attacked on this forum.

    Do you find that you read the thread & get the general response & agree with it??? Or are you brave enough to voice your opinion despite maybe being the minority???

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    Nope. Im me. No sugar coating here. If i agree its because "I" agree if i don't it is because "I" dont.
    Im not here to be popular. Im here to be me and i hope that others will accept that if not. Oh well.

    I have to admit ive been here since january and have not rubbed anyone up the wrong way and have to say there really hasnt been anyone that has overly rubbed me the wrong way.

    You live you learn. You reply to a thread and move on to the next.
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    I often sugar coat my opinion bc I don't want to offend people. And I think that's fair enough.

    I also think sugar coating your opinion is different to not voicing it (and therefore not being brave???).

    some subjects are clearly emotive also not black and white. There is often more than one way of getting your message across, why would I choose the way that will cause someone else pain?
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    I definitely sugar coat or just don't write what I feel. Especially if I feel others are being bully's or just plain rude. I can't be bothered with the conflict.

    I find a LOT of people on here too harsh at times and I'm a very sensitive person so I sugar coat as much for myself as I do for other posters.

    I do voice my opinion though, just not in a blunt way like some.

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    I have toned it down a lot. Now, I just let rip to those who I don't like or those who don't care about offending others

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    I don't sugar coat my opinion but get to ensure I remain respectful and non-inflammatory as often as I can.

    Being polite doesn't necessarily mean you are sugar coating.

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    I have sugar coated my opinion on many occasions. Most often it is because I don't want what I have said to be taken the wrong way. I have also sugar coated my opinion in the hope I don't get my head bitten off, chewed up, spat out and stomped into the sewer drain.

    But after some time off and some self reflection I have decided that I am allowed my own opinion. It is allowed to be different to the majority. I am also allowed to voice my opinion. That said, I'm not about to go around and start arguments for the sake of it and I will still continue to try to word things in a way that won't offend people on purpose.

    If I spoke the words as I think them, I would probably be compared to @VicPark. No offence intended, I actually admire your out spoken nature.

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    I think alot things come across harsh on bh like they do in email or text message. Its really hard to articulate in writing. Something I would usually speak will be taken to offence if typed. But no I generally don't sugar coat. But if something as irl can be a sensitive subject I will try and be empathetic in my response so I dont rub salt in wounds or make something worse.

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    I try to always respond with kindness, some may call that sugar coating. My motto has become if I wouldn't be happy seeing it on the front page of the newspaper, I don't say it.

    I do believe some to be unbelievably harsh, if these people are on a thread I don't reply & tend not to read it any more.

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    Nope I don't hold back opinions but I just strangely don't have a lot of STRONG opinions nor do I think the only right way to do it is MY way. So I really don't get involved in dummy, formula, routine yadda yadda yadda type threads because I'm very meh and happy for people to parent as they see fit.

    I am a staunch defender of single parents, women that have been or are victims of domestic violence and also basic rights of children so I do tend to be a lot more vocal posting in those threads. Wouldn't give a rats if the majority didn't agree with me at all .


 

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