Wow @Bergeron you are a good food warrior c woman. I am so impressed.
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Pearl Barley (16-10-2013)
SpecialControlGroup, good job!
You did the right thing. You aren't a mean mummy, you are a great mummy!
My mum used to do that to me all the time and I turned out just fine.
You're not a mean mummy, we have similar battles here. I too have created a problem with DS2 by giving him whatever would get him to eat. At 3.5 he still expects me to feed him (and embarrassingly I would just so food would go in, he's such an attention fiend).
Ive done similar to you, and will offer him his meal. It sits there for 40 mins (he's a s.l.o.w. eater) and after that I take it away. If he doesn't eat what I think is a necessary amount it's straight to bed with no bath or story, because he is clearly too tired to chew/eat. It's had success (I wouldn't say amazing overnight changes), but he eats so much more (amount wise and variety) 6 months in.
It's tough, but I think you are doing the right thing xx
I recently started something's similar with my almost two year old. He was getting different things if he didn't eat his dinner/lunch/whatever. It was getting ridiculous with half eaten things all over the house etc. now, he can choose snacks but must eat all of what he picked before anything else is offered. At dinner and lunch, he gets what we have and if he chooses not to eat it, he gets nothing. If he asks for anything else, he gets offered his dinner again and told that there is nothing else.
Surprisingly, it hasn't taken too long for him to just eat what we are having. I also found that I was serving him too much, I think maybe it was too overwhelming! Don't feel bad, she will thank you for this later!
You're not mean! I fear my DD is heading in the same direction
Good on you spg !
We had a rule for our three when they were small- they had to eat all their veg/salad before their meat. Otherwise they'd eat their sausage or bit of chicken or whatever and be "too full" for veg. And dessert is just a piece of fruit or yoghurt unless it's a special occasion. We also hid loads of veg in their food and then told them later what they'd eaten, so they couldn't throw the "but I don't LIKE zucchini/broccoli/carrot etc" routine- because the answer would always be "Really? You ate it yesterday with no complaints, there was heaps of it in your savoury mince/bolognese/curry"
People often asked us at parties and bbqs how we got our kids to eat salad etc- we just told them it was our rule. It also helps to only have healthy options available- I remember putting dd1's sandwich in the fridge at daycare years ago and another mum asking how I got her to eat brown bread- I told her dd didn't know there was another kind.
These days the thermomix helps me make heaps of healthy stuff, lunchbox fillers etc.
Hopefully your DD will come around soon, the first days will no doubt be the most challenging. If she's a big pasta fan you can make her "noodles" out of peeled strips of zucchini as a substitute.
@Beregon wow, what a strong mama to effect such a positive change in her family! Great work, just fantastic!
wow if you're a bad mum then i must be EVIL.
My DD 2.8yrs is terrible come diner time. We dont have any junk in the house, so it cant be offered, seen or eaten.
If DD doesnt eat what i out up then she goes to bed with nothing else. She even knows this and still wont eat dinner.
ive tried early dinners, ive tried later dinners, ive tried at the table together, ive tried a high chair and a little table and chair setting of her own, We tried a reward chart and bribes. Nothing made her even pick up a pea.
Before she goes to bed i ask her if she's hungry and she says no. So i just dont know. She snaks on fruit and doesnt really even eat that much during the day.
Its so frustrating but i have just had enough of the fights at the dinner table. i eat my dinner and i dont care anymore if she doesnt. It stays there on the table untill she goes to bed.
She sleeps through the night perfectly but is up pretty early In the mornings and will have 3 bowls of cereal , a banana and toast.
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