What a horrible situation. This was the very reason I chose to work and study simultaneously- unfortunately, I don't think there's too much other choices tbh.
The dilemna I faced- I needed to increase my potential hourly rate to earn more in less time- this meant study. But while studying (because I was not smart enough to do it before I became unexpectadly pregnant ), I did not feel comfortable raising DS in housing commission (that's if I could get it), so I had to work. And thus became my last 7 years. Admittedly, I was able to claim my study costs through tax because I work in the field. Financially, I think it worked out in my favour, it just required a hell of a lot of organising, planning and hard work- and perhaps some sacrifice on both DS and my part. Short term loss, for a long term gain.
If I were in this situation, I would begin by getting your daughters name down for before and after school care and changing my study to correspondence. Than. start looking for that job. Once, I had all that in place- I would look for a private rental.
I know I am not a single parent but I couldn't read and not reply. This is a horrible situation that no one should have to live with. A PP said to contact Today Tonight and I agree, recently I watched a story on DOH on there similar to yours where a young family was terrified because a man kept going nuts and trashing his unit and DOH wouldn't do anything no matter how many rules he broke they just kept sending workers out to fix the damage. I am sure they don't want anymore bad press so I would definitely contact the media
Wow. Honestly - you are living in hell. It is an incredibly unsafe environment for you and your child to live in. No one should have to put up with that. How disturbing.
If I was in your shoes, I'd do anything to get out of there. ANYTHING. I would seriously consider finding a private rental ASAP, even if it's just a little one bedroom apartment. I know you don't want to abandon your studies, but can you defer them temporarily if need be?
I think you need to get out of there, at all costs.
Surely the police can remove the man if he is threatening you?!
This all sounds awful
Do you have anyone else you can stay with? Family, friends?
Maybe a uni counsellor can assist?
Can you find a lease for a granny flat somewhere safe or a room mate to split the coat of rent with?
I don't know what else to suggest.
Hope you find some safety soon?
That sucks that the police are useless. It doesn't matter if its public housing or not, you are being threatened and it's a domestic disturbance? I can't believe the police won't do anything, disgraceful.
Awful, you poor thing
I would get out. Rent a room somewhere safe and share with your DD, or rent a 1 brm unit until your study is finished.
Where are you located?
Is it possible to head to a women and children's shelter?
What an awful situation for you to be in. Hugs x
Oh lovely. I hope you can find an alternate address. It sounds like they are having much luck in relocating them.
Are there any NRAS properties around you?? If it were me I'd doing anything in my power to get my child away from that situation. It's absolutely disgusting and not something a darling 5 year old should be witness to let alone yourself.
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