Thank you!! : )Hi, im sorry i have not properly read through this thread and will possibly have no new advice that has already been given. But i just wanted to tell you to be kind to yourself, lovey. Hormones are at their peak right now, it's a vunerable, confusing and intense time of your life. Gather all the support you can from your partner, friends and family - you will really need them through this time esp the first few weeks, as much as you may not like to admit it. Just ask for help. No one will judge you and it's a very healthy thing to be doing for you and the baby.
My next part of advice would be to get active with bub during the day. Take her outside in a bouncer/swing/carrier. Sun and fresh air do wonders. Let her know that daytime is playtime. Being 1 week old, she has no idea!
Try to establish some bedtime cues - feeding to sleep is perfectly FINE. Even try a night time routine! its never to early to begin a night time ritual. Just something sinple like a bath, feed, bed every single night, if you like. You want to get the message through to her that night time is sleepy quiet time.
As for the feeds, sounds normal but could you try feeding more frequently through the day? maybe every 2 hours? That may mean waking her but as i said, day is for play.
It does sound like she cluster feeds later in the night. Give her this oportunity a bit earlier in the night, after your ds has gone to bed. prop yourself up in bed/couch with a movie/tv show and just give her all access lol. My ds used to cluster feed from 4-9pm i was absolutely STUFFED!!! horrid time lol but we got through it, it did not last.
If all else fails, there is nothing wrong with having her in bed with you while she cluster feeds and you sleep.
Feed her when she demands through the night. It wont last. She's growing -FAST! and trying to establish a milk supply. You just have to go with her at this point.
If you want to use a dummy, use it. My ds was a sucker, had one in hospital and it had no impact on his attatchment. Infact, it gave me more rest! I fed on demand, he'd spit the dummy when he was hungry and that was 1.5-2hrly round the clock. Absclutely did not interfer with our breastfeeding.
I would seeer away from formula right now. It may upset bub and it will certainly interfer with your supply. bub will be too full too feed as frequently. At this stage, bub needs to feed very frequently to establish a good supply.
If you want to wean her to formula and you have giver bf all that you have, then do it. Hun, you have to do what is best for both of you. Dont suffer through these precious moments.
Rest. Rest. and Rest.
Enjoy her. She sounds very normal and everything you have said is so relevant for 1 week into it. Be kind to youself. Dont be aftraid to ask for help. You will both find your feet before you know it!
All the best.
I appreciate your time in lending some advise and words of support. x