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Months have a lot of ups and downs but it is all worth it you just have to stay calm take time out and get used to the fact you will never have real sleep for along time xxx good luck
So far so good. She fed well after her bath at 9. Fussed and carried on a bit so we gave the dummy a try to tide her over in between feeds. Sucked herself to sleep a few times in between a bit of gas then I caved and fed again at 11.
She slept till 1. Feeding well again now (1am). Hopefully after the second side she will sleep.
Co sleeper bed is good. Takes up a bit of space. Df has taken to sleeping about half way down the bed to get comfy. But we are sleeping better knowing she is safe and we can't accidentally roll into her.
I wasn't sure about the dummy. But if it helps her settle.. I will take it. If I am burping or holding her she will desperately seek my boob but if df does it she just relaxes into him. Especially after her bath, she fed on both sides, then back again for seconds. She cannot be hungry after that- surely?! If we use the dummy in between feeds at night and not instead of feeds. We should be ok.
As well as setting up your milk supply, it sounds like she is using your breast like a dummy to help her relax. Does she doze off whilst feeding? Is she swallowing a lot or just doing little suckles to help her relax without actually consuming very much. Sometimes they act like they are hungry when they are really exhausted and don't know how to switch off. I would try to make bigger gaps between feeds at night even if that meant holding her while she sleeps if that helps her sleep for a longer period. It will get better within in the next few months but I know how hellish it can seem at the time. In my experience a dummy seldom does any harm and can be really useful at night.
Last edited by babydreaming35; 14-10-2013 at 06:46.
Last night she did really well to sleep for a few long solid blocks of 2-3hrs then wake for a feed. She sucked on the dummy for a minute after being wrapped up again before it fell out and she was asleep. So I tend to agree that she was just using me to settle and perhaps the dummy allowed her to relax enough to sleep soundly. Where as on the boob she would doze and then wake when I moved her into her bed. This way she can fall asleep without being disrupted.
Hrm, I don't agree with the phrase "using breast like a dummy" as it is actually the dummy that is breast replacement.
OP, how your baby is behaving is completely normal and natural. The only way I could get any sleep in the early weeks was to bed share.
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