We have all our kids names down at private schools (a cross section has been selected) but if our local public school improves, and if we think it's what's best for our kids, they'll go there.
At the end of the day we don't want to be locked into any one particular school until we've figured out what's best for our individual kids. DH and I were both very academic and sporty but so far DD1 is showing far more talent for the arts then we ever did.
I have no intention of sending any of my kids to a school based on where I went. I'll try and choose what's right for them. I also don't see the point in DH and I working our butts off and never seeing our kids just so they can have a private education. If it comes down to a choice between me motivating my kids and a school I'll back myself.
Agree, upbringing is a major influence on life, as is personality. I tend to think people who do well career-wise do so no matter what school they attended. There's so many factors that influence one's working life/career.
Ive never thought private school influenced my potential, but I do feel that it was definitely beneficial in various other ways. In short I developed an appreciation for education, a worldly aspect and was sheltered and nurtured more than I would have been in public schooling. I needed that! I was already wild enough.
It really is an individual thing - people don't need to be defensive.
Sorry I haven't read the other responses but wanted to answer. I went to a private high school and my parents struggled. I ended up with a less than average OP. I wanted to be a prof dancer/ballerina and I became that. So my parents tuition sort of went to waste in that respect. My parents were the same as you though and didn't like the public high schools. I did possibly mix with people that were better for me as I was very 'easily led'. I have since gone to Tafe and uni with a high GPA.
My DH went to a public high school and got an OP of 2. We have pretty much decided to go public high if we can.
Go with your gut along with the research. You know what is best for your children.
I went to public school for primary and high school.
I did my best and my parents really got onto my sister and I to do our best with schooling.
I've had a few different jobs retail, admin, travel consultant, childcare and at the moment SAHM trying to find a job I can do. Health reasons I can't do the job I want to, midwifery.
My sister worked in retail, never went onto further study, and she's been a SAHM for the past 4yrs.
I think lots of things have to be taken into account in how a person turns out to be later in life. Also not all schools will suit all kids.
Single mummy to a wonderful DS (Born 11/12/2008)
I went to a private high school - I'm a teacher
DH went to a public high school - he's a teacher (we met at uni)
I agree with others that if you're going to succeed you will.
But if you're the kind of kid who might get lost in the system/slip through the cracks/get swayed by the crowd then perhaps being choosy about a school becomes more important. That doesn't necessarily mean a private school is the answer - but looking into schools and their sense of community might be worthwhile.
For example, where we live the public high schools are enormous. Bursting at the seams. We know teachers who work at them and they are swamped and freely admit that it's hard to chase up kids who wag when the numbers are so high. The kids who want to be there and work hard are fine. Otherwise it's a bit edgy.
She's now incredibly successful in her career (earns nothing as a social worker but absolutely loves it and has found her calling) and has done exceptionally well at uni. But school was lost on her.
What I've found really interesting in this thread is how many people have siblings who went to different schools. It was just assumed I would go to the same school as my sister without any question. I wouldn't hesitate to send my kids to different schools if it suited them better.
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