Your dad is not a good person to have in your life though. He causes you pain and anxiety and I don't imagine that this will change. I guess your choices are to keep him in your life and accept him for what he is or to just shut the door, maybe not forever, but for now. You have to think of your daughter too, do you really want him in her life? The potential damage that he could cause her, well I don't know if I'd risk it.