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    Unhappy Any ideas??? Can somebody relate to this???

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    I am a 29 year old mother of 3 gorgeous children aged 8, 5 & 3.5. For a very long time (ever since my 2nd child was 2 months old) I have been feeling like something wasn't quite right. Obviously I was tired due to having a newborn & a 3 year old but I have the most amazing husband who would let me have regular rests & he would also take over with the kids frequently. I felt that my fatigue was worse than what the other mums I knew were experiencing. Of course I never said anything and just kept carrying on hoping things would get better. The biggest problem I faced was severe pain in my ankles. It was so bad for I was literally unable to walk. I was still overweight due to gaining during pregnancy but not that heavy it should have made a difference to my ankles. For 5 months I basically did nothing, the baby was in a cradle beside my bed and my husband would bring my dinner in for me to eat sitting in bed when it was too bad. Often the only time I would get up would be to make a trip to the bathroom. Ibuprofen & paracetamol did not have any effect on the pain. Then one day when my baby was 7 months old the pain was gone. I had been feeling very ill for almost a week and did a pregnancy test and discovered I was pregnant with baby number 3. I'm not exactly sure how due to my sex drive being non existent and having a lot of trouble conceiving in the past. We had only had sex once and this was the result. So obviously the fatigue was still there but I was so overjoyed about having another baby (and the pain had gone) that I put it to the back of my mind. This was to be by far my worst pregnancy and I actually became quite down at times. I then had my 3rd c/section and took 4 months to heal. I had a very bad infection and the wound would not get better. I gained a lot of weight with this pregnancy and after during that recovery period. After this baby was born I began getting very heavy periods lasting 7-8 days and incredibly painful. I also began to feel down about leaving the house I hated myself for the way that I had become - although never to the point of disturbing thoughts etc... I would probably call it mild depression. When baby number 3 was 7 months old we moved to a very remote area and a very small town. I became more isolated than ever. I decided I wanted to lose the weight and tried exercising (I have always eaten very healthy so that didn't need to change much). I couldn't lose a kilogram in 6 months so I went to the doctor. She tested for thyroid (T3 & T4) and they came back normal along with everything else. I had about 5 more lots of blood tests over 3 years but all came back that I was fine. About 12 months later (bub was 19 months old) the ankle pain returned worse than ever. I couldn't do anything. I have xrays etc... and all came back as fine. Anyway the fatigue, nausea, hair loss, pain, palpitations etc... continued and nobody could tell me why. We have recently just moved back to a larger town and everything seems to have gotten worse over that past few weeks. I have the majority of the symptoms described for hypothyroidism but I can't get a doctor to say that is what is wrong with me. All of my tests show I'm healthy (despite weighing 120kg). I just keep gaining weight. Also I might add that my Grandfather & my mother had hypothyroidism and were diagnosed so there is a family history. I am living a nightmare which is not fair on my husband, my kids or myself. I am in constant pain and so tired all of the time. I'm cranky and irritable, have NO sex drive at all, my hair is falling out - getting much worse now. I have a severely dry flaking scalp, my hands and feet are always ice cold, dry & flaking skin, my vision is sometimes a bit fuzzy and I can't concentrate on anything. I have trouble listening to someone because I can't concentrate on them. I went from a 56kg outgoing fit bubbly person that would compete in triathlons regularly to this person I don't even recognise. How can I get a doctor to listen to me and not my test results? How can I get my life back? I'm so very desperate Thankyou for reading this.

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    Sounds like you are having a really tough time. Hugs. So are you thyroid levels normal? Your symptoms certainly sound hormonal of some type.
    I am thinking maybe parathyroid? Your symtoms fit except it is mostly seen in post menopausal women but not unheard of in younger people. You should get your calcium levels checked.

    I really hope you feel better soon and let me know how you go.

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    Did they check your Anti Immune antibodies?

    I have rheumatoid arthritis and your post rings a lot of bells...esp the symptoms going away while pregnant and then coming back with vengeance afterwards.

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    Quote Originally Posted by River Song View Post
    Did they check your Anti Immune antibodies?

    I have rheumatoid arthritis and your post rings a lot of bells...esp the symptoms going away while pregnant and then coming back with vengeance afterwards.
    I'm not sure but all of the times they ran tests they tested for everything they thought could possibly be wrong I just wish I could get some answers this is not how I thought I'd be living my life at 29

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    do you have aprint out of results?
    check if they have ANA listed anywhere and your numbers

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    Could it perhaps be two different conditions and they are each making the other worse? (Hopefully not as that would be awful!) one masks some symptoms of the other and vice versa make them more difficult to diagnose!

    what you describe sounds like it has something to do with your thyroid tbh (except the ankles, that's confusing :/, separate issue maybe??) and you have family history so I'd still be looking there. Maybe find a GP who will refer you to a specialist in that area, sorry not sure what they're called, as it sounds like it really is beyond a GP sort of issue!

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    Thanks River - They didn't give me a print out of my results. I am feeling so exhausted. Went to bed at 8:00pm last night, saw hubby off to work at 6:00am, went back to bed because I was so tired until 9:30am (Kids were just watchingTV - DS starts at his new school next week), put on a couple of loads of washing - will get DH to hang out when he gets home because I just can't manage it. I've given the kids breakfast, morning tea & lunch and sat in front of the computer for a little while. I am now almost falling asleep and it's only 2:00pm. My eyes get blurry & a bit fuzzy when I get tired, my muscles are hurting & my ankles are really bad today - tears come to my eyes when I try to walk & stand but I manage to get around a little bit. I have good days & bad days but the pain never actually goes away anymore

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    Hmmm. I agree with asking about getting ANA checked. Also look at the blood test results too so that you can see for yourself.
    This sounds a fair amount like me (weight gain, irregular cycles, hair loss, fatigue, mild anxiety, RSI like symptoms in wrist and then every now and then my shoulders and dodgy knee ache) and unfortunately my ANA results were not too good so off to an immunologist to discover more.
    I demanded to see an Endocrinologist but my hormones were all fine and I was so sure this was it because it all started after I gave birth to my second. Apparently what they think is wrong with me can start that way. I still have my fingers crossed that they are wrong. Realist that I am in this I shall be an optimist until the end. BTW I am 30 and have been having these symptoms since I was 26.


 

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