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    Default Sister dilema

    My sister is pregnant (well actually two of them are, but just talking about one of them at the moment). This sister is my half sister, she has another sister and family who we (my other pregnant sister) don't like. She's having a baby shower and has invited us to go...but it's at her sister's place! We have never gotten along and it will be very awkward if we went. We want to see her and all that, but we don't want to go to her sister's place and see/talk to her family (long story).

    Should be go anyway? We have told her how we feel and recommended maybe going out for dinner or catching up without her other family, but she's annoyed. We tried telling her we would be uncomfortable. We don't want to sound selfish or anything either.

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    Yes. Put your feelings aside and go. Surely everyone can be civil for 2 hours.


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    Do it for your sister. Put yourself in her shoes. It would suck having your sister say they are not coming to celebrate because they don't like your other sister. As the PP said put your issues aside for the morning/afternoon.

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    i'd go even just for an hour. most of the time at babyshowers they are doing games or opening gifts so you'd hardly have to talk to anyone.

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    I would suck it up and be civil for my sister. It's not her fault others don't like each other and she just wants to include all of her family.

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    I'd still to. Even it it's just an hour or so, it's the right thing to do!

    I've had a family member miss my birthday due to issues with another family member and I was so annoyed they couldn't act like adults for 2 hours!

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    Absolutely. It's family, you need to put your differences aside when it comes to family. It's stupid & petty to hold onto grudges.

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    Definitely go.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mum2bubba View Post
    My sister is pregnant (well actually two of them are, but just talking about one of them at the moment). This sister is my half sister, she has another sister and family who we (my other pregnant sister) don't like. She's having a baby shower and has invited us to go...but it's at her sister's place! We have never gotten along and it will be very awkward if we went. We want to see her and all that, but we don't want to go to her sister's place and see/talk to her family (long story).

    Should be go anyway? We have told her how we feel and recommended maybe going out for dinner or catching up without her other family, but she's annoyed. We tried telling her we would be uncomfortable. We don't want to sound selfish or anything either.
    I don't think it matters if you don't like her sister or not. It's not your baby shower. Put aside your differences, act mature and civil for a couple of hours for the sake of your sister.

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    It can't be that hard to be polite for a few hours for your sister's sake.


 

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