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    Default Present for a mum who just had a bub but said no to me giving

    So a friend just had a new bub, I sent her a msg about a week or so ago asking if there was anything she needs for bub and that I have some baby clothes to give her if she would like them (she gave me clothes and stuff when I had my bub so thought it only fair rhat I should do the same) anyway she sent me a msg back saying that I should keep my clothes for our next baby and my money because we have a tight budget.

    I was a bit upset by her reply as I really wanted to help out but I understood why she didn't accept.

    Anyway I sent her a msg asking if we could visit her in hospy during her stay and that id like to make her a meal or some snacks and take some flowers for her to enjoy. I really want to get her some sort of small gift but I dont want to offend. What would you do. If giving what sort of thing would you suggest?

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    Give her a massage voucher or something like that.

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    I'd have loved pre-cooked meals to eat when we first got home, or for someone to vacuum the house. These would have been awesome gifts!

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    A massage voucher is a great idea! It's been 1 week since I gave birth to DD & I'm aching for a massage!

    Other than that, products for baby eg. Nappies, wipes, bath products.

    Cooked meals she could freeze.

    A little basket with stuff for mama. You could pop an oil burner in there with a bottle of lavender oil, massage oil, shampoo, conditioner, a refreshing face wash, one that contains peppermint or tea tree oil. Heat pack, lip balm, nipple cream if she's breastfeeding, bio oil etc.

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    How about making a homemade "IOU" for babysitting services that she can cash in with you down the track?

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    I hated getting gifts off friends who I knew money was tight. Particularly if they had kids ( i prefer that they used it on their kids) . I had also made pre made meals so our freezer was full.
    I had to literally put on a stern voice with my mil and say no
    Op if she has said no gifts and keep clothes then listen to her.
    I would get a nice card and a small token gift like a good book with a nice message written in it.

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    She sounds adamant that she doesn't want gifts so I wouldn't buy anything too costly. Some ideas:
    - healthy baked biscuit or muffins would be a good snack for her or her kids
    - are you into photography? Could you offer to take some family photos if not in the hospital but when they get home ? I wish I had more photos of our whole family
    - small fruit/veg basket even home grown stuff if you have any would be great
    - activity book for other children


    I think the main thing is that she would like your company rather than a gift

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    She might feel uncomfortable recieving gifts.

    I think taking her a bunch of flowers with some morning/afternoon tea (yummy special cupcakes or muffins) is a great idea. You could pick up a little toy and say its from your wee one who wanted to bring bub a little present.

    The babysitting voucher is brilliant!!! Or even an IOU a girly catch up voucher x

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    I would get her flowers. And take a cake or something for morning tea. If not a bottle of bubbles with a note attached saying we will share a glass or 2 when the times right keep it in ice!

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    Cleaning voucher or go clean her house.


 

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