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    Default I need positive stories please :(

    I had to go undercover as my username is the one I use for everything.

    So EXH has the kids every school holidays and has done for the last 7 years. These holidays he has told the kids I don't look after them properly and they are not allowed to come home.. When I spoke to my 10 year old all he wants to do I come home. My 12 year old doesn't want to make anyone upset and in her ideal world we would all live together..

    I have been to his place where when I rang him to see where he was he told me he wasn't home and wasn't going home so I have no idea where my kids are. He wont let me see them or talk to them..

    I have seen my solicitor who has put in an urgent court date ( which is this Friday) to get the kids returned to me and strict guidelines to him having them again..

    Please tell me im going to see my kids again and they will come home to me. There are no drugs, violence, DOCS or police called ever. they are loved nurtured and well taken care of. I don't think im a bad mum..Maybe I am. Maybe I don't love them enough.. Just some positive stories as I am going out of my mind..

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    I'm pretty sure if you have main custody of your children, then what he is doing is technically kidnapping and should be reported to the police asap. He legally cannot do this. Call the police & go from there, I'm sure theyll be able to help out. Good luck & hugs!

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    Yes well you would think that but no they cant do anything unless a recovery order is in place. They were the first people I called. Just need to know that they will come back to me..I miss them so much my heart is empty

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    Do you have court orders in place? If so go to police station and report him. If not you might have to wait till Friday until the judge orders him to return them. Really sorry you're going through this. I've been through it and it's hell. Please feel free to PM if you want to talk.

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    Call everyone you know....his family??? ASk them to please go and see them...make sure he is not alone or having some sort of break down. Let them know you are happy to wait for court but, as this is very out of character...you are concerned for all of their wellbeing.

    If you know some of his close friends...call them...say the same.

    Most importantly, they need to make sure the kids are safe and that he is rational.

    Are the kids due back at school??

    Can the police do welfare checks?

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    No no court orders as yet. Didn't think I needed them as for the last 7 years the changeover has gone smoothly. I just think what the kids are going through.

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    Quote Originally Posted by anotherhubberundercover View Post
    No no court orders as yet. Didn't think I needed them as for the last 7 years the changeover has gone smoothly. I just think what the kids are going through.

    This to me rings huge alarm bells.

    Has something changed in the last few months?

    Please get some people to check on him. Get some welfare checks done...get people in touch with him who can support him and make sure he is of sound mind.

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    His family and I don't talk. They are due back at school tomorrow but he told me he is going to enroll them where he is. He won't let me speak to them until his he spoken to his solicitor. This is why my solicitor has put a rush on everything. He has a new gf and I have no idea where she is. I live 4 hours away he moved back to Sydney when we split.

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    Quote Originally Posted by anotherhubberundercover View Post
    His family and I don't talk. They are due back at school tomorrow but he told me he is going to enroll them where he is. He won't let me speak to them until his he spoken to his solicitor. This is why my solicitor has put a rush on everything. He has a new gf and I have no idea where she is. I live 4 hours away he moved back to Sydney when we split.
    Even if you don't talk to them normally...would they go and check on him? Not to get the kids back or anything...just to make sure everything is OK?

    Has anything happened at your end? Could the kids have said anything (albeit innocent) that could be taken the wrong way?

    Just seems unusual for someone to change so long after sep...

    Huge hugs, I cannot imagine how you are feeling right now!

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    I'm so sorry you're going through this. I have no advice, but please don't blame yourself
    Fingers crossed they're back home with you very soon


 

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