LooLaa, we are TTC our second.
I unfortunately experienced the waiting at home after finishing up work at 37 weeks, but waited and waited and waited and waited until 10 days overdue when I got induced. I sort of missed out on the calling DH and telling him to come home I'm in labour
Is this your first or subsequent?
MrsT - On the whining front, it can be hard to take, especially if you aren't UTD yet, but try and block her out, that can be hard too I know, but some people can get caught up in the 'romance' of getting pregnant and having a baby, that they don't understand the reality of what pregnancy is really like and given her attitude to 'not asking for it' because you're right, she technically did, but she probably doesn't realise it.
It's a bit like me, I had no idea how hard newborns were, I thought -as everyone says- all they do is eat and sleep and that was never a reality for me as a. It wasn't as simple as that and b. She had silent reflux which wasn't diagnosed until 4.5 months old which made everything worse, I was completely unprepared, but I realise I can't complain as I'm the one who wanted a baby.
So just playing devils advocate a little as I can see why her behaviour is upsetting, but I can also kind of see where she may possibly becoming from.