Closed Thread
Page 91 of 100 FirstFirst ... 41818990919293 ... LastLast
Results 901 to 910 of 1000
  1. #901
    Join Date
    Dec 2012
    Posts
    1,149
    Thanks
    32
    Thanked
    505
    Reviews
    1
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Crafty... We are having a rough patch too. DH has depression and feels overwhelmed and 'not ready' to buy a house or ttc after committing to. At this point I can't wait much longer. DS starts kindy next year and I am desperate to give him a sibling. I just want nothing more than to move forward with our life together.

    He is on medication and sees a psych... I just don't know what else to do. I want to be supportive but by giving him more time that means I am the one in daily pain by not being able to have the things I want. We just love each other too much to leave though. Love is so tough.

  2. #902
    Join Date
    Mar 2013
    Location
    Perth
    Posts
    1,954
    Thanks
    859
    Thanked
    731
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Crafty, Im so sorry your DH has said that, there are two "positives" here please dont be offended by either, they're simply my opinion.

    1) I was once told, fighting is good, once you stop fighting it means there is nothing worth fighting for.
    2) Its good to discuss these things before bringing a baby into the situation, Its most likely nerves about the "next step". Marriage although its difficult to go through (and think about) can be ended much more easily than than leaving the father of your child and breaking up a family.
    Having the huge commitment is terrifying for anyone and your partner might be using bickering as a way of sharing this fear.

    My DH and I dont fight often (its just not in his nature) but we did go through this, you do get past it.

  3. #903
    Join Date
    Sep 2013
    Location
    Brisbane
    Posts
    847
    Thanks
    109
    Thanked
    213
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    I hope so. A part of me thinks because his mum and dad were always arguing and he hated it he feels it's not good arguing. I'm the opposite, my mum was a single mum so I never had it around me and I think if you don't argue someone's keeping their mouth shut which isn't healthy. Things are better today at least

  4. #904
    Join Date
    Apr 2013
    Posts
    794
    Thanks
    56
    Thanked
    255
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Crafty - I'm sorry that you guys have been fighting If it helps I don't trust couples that don't fight lol. DF and I fight over stupid things all the time. We have the same core values and beliefs and we want the same things in life so our foundation is the same but there are still little things that creep up and cause issues, we fight and then we move on. It sounds like your DH is just reading too much into it and thinking it means more than it maybe does. I'm glad that things have been better today though

  5. #905
    Join Date
    Jul 2013
    Posts
    274
    Thanks
    9
    Thanked
    113
    Reviews
    0
    Big hugs crafty xx

    Not sure if there is any advice I can give other than to focus on the positives with your DH. Share in the positive moments together and then try to open the lines of communication.

    I hope I don't offend anyone when I say this, but try to keep yourself from arguing. If something upsets you try not to say to DH that he upsets you. Try to be calm and explain why you're not feeling 100%. That way he won't feel attacked and lash out. If he lashes out, try to stay calm and look at it from his perspective. Sometimes you have to give a lot more in the relationship. But you then get a lot more out of it.

    I hope you get through this and things are much better.

  6. The Following User Says Thank You to Cocoblue For This Useful Post:

    Craftymamabris  (16-11-2013)

  7. #906
    Join Date
    Sep 2013
    Location
    Brisbane
    Posts
    847
    Thanks
    109
    Thanked
    213
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    That makes sense. We had a talk today so that helped.i also had a bad headache all day so he went and got me aspro and cold rock . That's always nice.

  8. #907
    Join Date
    Dec 2012
    Posts
    1,149
    Thanks
    32
    Thanked
    505
    Reviews
    1
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    I'm glad you talked and ice cream cures all

    We actually had a really good day today too.

    I feel if the love is still there, it's worth fighting for...all relationships go through peaks and troughs. I am sure you will get through it this low patch and come out stronger.

  9. The Following User Says Thank You to Colbie For This Useful Post:

    clucky_duck  (17-11-2013)

  10. #908
    Join Date
    Sep 2013
    Location
    Brisbane
    Posts
    847
    Thanks
    109
    Thanked
    213
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Well said! And yes ice cream does cure all. Except the headache is back for a third day. Whyyyyyy lol

  11. #909
    Join Date
    May 2013
    Posts
    1,319
    Thanks
    752
    Thanked
    501
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Wise words Colbie. I couldn't agree more!mmm ice cream specifically Ben and jerrys or connoisseurs!!

    40℃ is a stinker mrst. We had the best day yesterday. Hang over city here. I have a bad headache too but self inflicted of course

    Ahh its so nice celebrating love with friends it makes everyone so romantic LOL

    Sent from my HTC One SV using The Bub Hub mobile app

  12. #910
    Join Date
    Jul 2013
    Posts
    274
    Thanks
    9
    Thanked
    113
    Reviews
    0
    Sounds like it was a good night hopefully!

    2 of my friends got engaged this weekend! So very exciting! And one was so unexpected!!

    I tested at 1am this morning with first response. Turned out to be bfn. But I've only just clocked onto 10dpo. And in my avid googling I've discovered first response requires between 25-100 hcg to work. On average you won't have 100 hcg at 9 or 10dpo.

    So I've gone out and bought a more sensitive test to test tomorrow morning.

    I never realised I'd be so keen for this TWW to end!

    For anyone who hasn't been through this before: try not to think about pregnancy until AF is due! Easier said than done I'm afraid. Especially when you are experiencing so many symptoms. I've convinced myself I'm pregnant. Not the best thing to do because I'll now be crushed if AF arrives on Thursday!


 

Similar Threads

  1. May 2014
    By MamaOfPrincessX2 in forum When are you due?
    Replies: 41
    Last Post: 16-07-2014, 09:35
  2. TTC in 2014 - Come and join me!
    By Kimnus in forum Conception & Fertility General Chat
    Replies: 910
    Last Post: 01-10-2013, 17:54

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
christmas gift guidesee all Red Stocking
Shapland Swim Schools
Shapland's at participating schools offer free baby orientation classes once a month - no cost no catches. Your baby will be introduced to our "natural effects" orientation program develop by Shapland's over 3 generations, its gentle and enjoyable.
sales & new stuffsee all
Pea Pods
Buy 2 Award Winning Pea Pods Reusable One Size Nappies for only $38 (in your choice of colours) and receive a FREE roll of Bamboo Liners. Don't miss out, we don't usually have discounts on the nappies, so grab this special offer!
Special Offer! Save $12
featured supporter
The MAMA Centre
Pregnancy, birth & beyond care with your very own midwife. Home & hospital birth support, VBACs, antenatal & postnatal care by medicare eligible midwives & holistic health practitioners. Massage, chiro, naturopathy, yoga, counselling & beauty therapy
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!