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    Default Am I normal?

    I left exdp in April and continued living with him for a couple of months. He has just texted me telling me he is seeing someone and wouldn't be telling me if he knew she wasn't sticking around. Now I in no way want him back I'm not attracted to him at all anymore but I'm feeling a range of emotion right now and I don't know why! I don't really get out much and am home a lot. Could this be why? Iv now organized going to the city one weekend with my best friend so I'm hoping tht will make me feel better but has this happened to anyone else?

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    Of course, it's totally normal. And I mean really, you haven't been separated that long. Hope you have a great time with your bestie, that'll be a great pick me up

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    Ok good!

    So dd3s first birthday is on the 13th oct and it's the first time ever not waking up with one of my kids of their birthday as it's making it so much harder right now knowing his new girlfriend will probably be there and he will no doubt get her out of her cot and tKe her into bed with them in the morning! It's killing me knowing that! I hate I'm not the first (apart from him) ones to see her for her FIRST birthday and there isn't a damn thing I can Do about it! It's really messing with me! First birthdays are so special to me because it's a year since I gave birth to her! I'm hating how much this sounds like it's all about me right now but it's just how I feel!

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    If you guys have a good relationship still, perhaps you can ask your ex if you can have your DD the night before and then drop her off after breakfast so you both get time with her for her first birthday?

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    Hes dropping her off to me at midday on the Sunday, I he had his way he would be having her bday party at 1pm on he birthday and dropping her back at 6pm! He told me I was demanding when I said 4pm the latest! Now I know his new girlfriend changed his mind! I think I'm gonna voice my feelings an hopefully he wint have his girlfriend stay over the sat night! I don't see him caring or understanding me tho!

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    Yeah I agree the feelings are normal re ex-DP having a new girlfriend.

    I hope you can come to an agreement that suits both of you


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    Does this sound too good to be true..

    After talking to ex dp about his new gf and me thinking he had introduced them before letting me know ( he promised he hadn't yet but I still don't believe him) I also mentioned about dds first bday and he said 'you look really stresse about this did you want the girls back sat night?' I was shocked then he text me later and said he will bring the girls back sat night but Xmas has to stay as we planned.. I was fine by this because he's having the girls Xmas eve and bringing then back to me at 10 Xmas day where I have them for the rest of the day! I'm obviously gonna ask him is he wants the girls on Sunday arvo for a bit before dinner to see dd on her bday. But I'm worried he has something up his sleeve cos this sounds too good to be true to me!

    Thoughts?

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    I think I would take him at his word ( unless he has a history of telling lies etc)

    What are you worried he might do?

    Just by reading what you have written it does sound like he is trying to accommodate you.

    I would just feel pleased with the outcome.

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    Don't get me wrong I am pleased. Yes he's had a history of lies that why I left him plus feeling controlled. Well he can't change the plans so I'm unsure of what he could do!

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    I think, as hard as it is, just relax, take him at his word, and see how it works out. Second guessing everything just drives us mad.


 

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