View Poll Results: Would you allow your partner to be a sperm donor for his ex?

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    If dh and i split and i had a head injury that would cause we to want more children and dh hadnt met anyone else. Id consider asking him.

    But if he had a new wife and family lol heck no.

    If dh's hypothetical ex asked him to father a hypothetical sibling for their hypothetical child... And we were married and had our children already. No dice.


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    Hell no!

    I'm not cool with him donating sperm to any woman at all... despite the fact I would donate my eggs. For me, his sperm is his sole contribution to a pregnancy. My contribution is both eggs and the use of my uterus for 9 months... so I feel that's different.

    Still, I'd never donate them to an ex. It's too messy. It's too icky. It's too hard to view that as a rational, logical person without jealousy and icky emotions making it tough to get on with.

    Ain't no way in hell I'd be okay with it. At all.

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    I wouldn't even support his decision to no longer financially support his own child(ren) let alone donate sperm to his ex on top of that!
    Agreed!

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    No way! When their relationship ended that is the end of sharing bodily fluids, let alone DNA!

    Also I don't think it is ok to suddenly not be financially responsible for your own children either!

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    I was actually just thinking about this more and I actually think it's really wrong.

    Child A & B would have been conceived in a relationship knowing their father.

    Child C would come along with it's siblings in contact with bio-dad and wonder what makes them so special that bio-dad wants to know A & B, but not C?

    If it was done by random donor sperm then this problem wouldn't exist as bio-dad would 100% not be contact with the family.

    It's far too complex and messy for the children. The only way this would work is if the mother and father were both single and agreeing to co-parent.

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    No way in hell. Any adult that agrees to this has a screw missing..

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    Not a chance!

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    Not a chance!

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    Maybe. But my circumstances are slightly different- although they didn't have any kids together, my DH's ex has a medical condition which severely limits her reproductive years. She's 5 years older than me already, so if she was to ask with no strings attached....I hope this hypothetical situation doesn't eventuate, but I'd certainly consider saying yes.

    I don't like the idea of swapping that for getting out of CS though. That would leave a bad taste in my mouth so to speak.


 

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